Brother, Can You Spare a Dime?

I recently came across a book – in fact, I am reviewing the book on Friday – entitled Dimestore. The book is a nonfiction memoir about a writer whose father owned a dimestore in the small Virginia town in which she grew up.

Oh man, I thought. Why couldn’t my dad have owned a dimestore instead of a bakery when I was growing up? Of course, I don’t really mean that because having parents who owned a business that produced scrumptious goodies every day was pretty darn good. But still…..

As I was basking in this good feeling about dimestores, I began to wonder at what age one must be to actually know what I’m talking about when I say dimestore. So I did some quite unscientific research. I sent two identical text messages – one to my 35-year-old son Court and one to my 13-year-old granddaughter Adelaide. Here is what the text said:

Research question: If I talk about a dime store, do you know what I’m talking about w/o looking it up?

I heard back fairly quickly from both of them.

Court: No idea. I assume it’s like a dollar store?

Addie’s response was shorter, but more repentent….

No. Sorry.

I will be honest, however. I was pretty sure Addie wouldn’t know what a dimestore was, but I thought Court would know. And, based on his answer, he could figure it out. Dimestore v. Dollar Tree? Inflation?

But I guess rather than comparing it to a dollar store, I would describe it more like a much smaller version of Walmart. And much more fun simply BECAUSE it was smaller.

In Columbus, where I grew up, we had not one, but TWO, dimestores in our downtown. One was called Scott’s Dime Store. I think that one was locally owned. A block further down our main street was Woolworth’s, another dimestore.

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Of course, during my formative years in Columbus, our main street was the only game in town. There was JC Penneys, Montgomery Ward, and a whole bunch of smaller locally-owned stores and cafes. Columbus also had two bakeries on our main street, one of which was the Gloor Bakery, and the other of which was the other bakery, which name we never spoke. Of course, Woolworth’s was a national chain, but we didn’t know that at the time. It was just another beloved dimestore, but one that included a lunch counter with much-sought-after booths by the window for your cherry coke.

Since my research suggests that non-baby-boomers are unfamiliar with dimestores, I will explain. Dimestores were (are there still dimestores in existence?) stores that carried a little bit of a lot of things at a reasonable price. Our dimestores carried things ranging from tennis balls to gold fish; from penny candy to sewing notions; from school supplies to kids’ shoes. Oh what fun it was to just wander into the dimestore and browse the aisles.

Scott’s Dime Store is where I bought my grandmother afghan kits that included everything necessary to make a ripple afghan. It is also the location of an incident about which my grandmother spoke the rest of her life. When I was 4 or 5 years old, she and I walked the two blocks between her apartment above our bakery and Scott’s Dime Store for reasons I have long ago forgotten. (It wouldn’t surprise me if the only reason we went was to kill time by browsing and perhaps (probably) to buy some candy. All I know is we were half the way back to her apartment when she glanced down and noticed that I was barefoot.

“Oy yoy yoy Krisily,” she probably said because oy yoy yoy was her universal term of surprise or frustration and –ily was added to every one of her grandkids’ names as a show of affection. “Where are your shoes?”

Oh boy, I thought. No clue.

So we walked back to Scott’s Dime Store and went up and down each aisle until we finally located my shoes. She put them back on my feet and I received, of course, not a single scold from her. In fact, she possibly bought more candy.

By the way, as another arm of research, I asked Bill if he knew what I meant by dimestore. He, of course, knew exactly what a dimestore was. He pointed out, however, that they called them 5 and Dimes instead of dimestores.

Big City shoppers!

A Tale of Two Cities

You might recall that the visit from my friend Megan got cut short because she learned ON FRIDAY that her plane ON SATURDAY was cancelled due to a snow storm which, at the point of cancellation, hadn’t produced a single flake of snow.

I know I sound bitter, but I’m really not; just confused. Because anybody who has spent even one winter in Colorado knows that the weather forecast is unreliable. Furthermore, even if you know snow is likely, where it is going to fall in the metro area is anyone’s guess. The foothills can get a foot of snow while central Denver gets a sprinkling.

But I don’t work for United Airlines nor am I a meteorologist. So, well, I’ll get a grip.

Saturday morning I Face Timed with 7-year-old Kaiya.

“How’s the weather?” I asked her.

“It’s snowing,” she proclaimed. She took her iPad over to the window, flipped the camera, and showed me that there was a good six or seven inches of snow on their patio furniture.

So, as evidence that I’m, in fact, NOT getting a grip, I will tell you that since the weather the previous days in Colorado had been quite warm, while snow was sticking to the patio table, it likely wasn’t sticking to the grass or pavement. Okay, so now I’m going to get a grip.

“You look really snuggly in your pajamas,” I said to her. “Are you nice and warm?”

“Yes,” she said. “But I have on three pairs of pajamas.”

Alrighty then.

I took my iPad over to our Mesa house’s back window and flipped my own camera to show her the blue sky and the blooming flowers.

Her two words indicated what I know is EVERY COLORADO RESIDENT’S sentiment right about now.

“Oh man,” she said.

I haven’t worn anything but flip flops since late in February. I have a farmer’s tan on my feet. We’re running the air conditioner. More cacti and desert plants burst into bloom every day. See…….

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Saturday afternoon, I got a text message from my sister Jen who had just returned from the grocery store. Anyone who has lived in a place in which a lot of snow can fall knows that just as soon as the news media begins talking about (fill in the blank) inches of snow, mayhem ensues. People go absolutely crazy. For some reason, they all rush to the store and buy the same things – toilet tissue, canned tomatoes, milk, and eggs. This is true even for people who don’t like milk and eggs. And seriously? Do people really let themselves get down to only the toilet tissue that is currently on the roll in their bathroom? Because the snow will be gone in a few days, people.

Anyhoo, Jen sent me these two photos….

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no tomatoes

Here is the text Jen included with the photo of the empty shelf where canned tomatoes should be: Eek! Canned tomato shortage. I knocked an elderly woman and a small child out of the way to get mine.

I’m pretty sure she was kidding.

As for those of us lucky enough to be in the Valley of the Sun, we still obsess about a terrible wind storm we got this past winter….

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By the way, at Megan’s house, they only got an inch of snow. Now I’m getting a grip.

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Saturday Smile: The Trouble with Tucson

Megan takes a much better selfie than I!

Megan takes a much better selfie than I!

Since we bought our house in Arizona, I have been wanting to visit Tucson. People rave about this southern Arizona city — the home of the University of Arizona.

Bill and I went one time to see what Tucson was like. We were, frankly, disappointed. But to be fair, we drove down on I-10 for lunch and had no idea where we should go or what we should do. So we ate lunch and headed home, again on I-10, kind of wondering what all the fuss was about.

The past few days, my friend Megan has been visiting us from Denver. She has relatives in Tucson and has spent a considerable amount of time visiting that community. So in addition to the fun we had here and getting the chance to see our Arizona house, she was excited to take me for a day trip to Tucson so she could show me the town.

We took a scenic route between Phoenix and Tuscon which we both enjoyed very much.

She had recollection of a Mexican restaurant from which her uncle would bring home delicious Mexican food. It was called St. Mary’s Restaurant. We found the restaurant (what did we in the days before Google Maps?), ordered, and ate our yummy meals, excited to begin our Tucson sightseeing.

St. Mary's Restaurant, Tucson, Arizona

St. Mary’s Restaurant, Tucson, Arizona

But, alas, it was not to be. Following lunch, Megan casually checked her email and learned that United Airlines had CANCELED HER FLIGHT. Her flight that wasn’t scheduled until the NEXT DAY. Yes friends, they canceled the flight in ANTICIPATION of the snow in Colorado, something I don’t recall ever happening before. They suggested catching a flight out yesterday afternoon or evening.

Which she did. She quickly made a flight reservation, and instead of our lovely tour of Tucson, we got onto I-1o and hightailed it home just in time for her to briskly stuff her clothes back into the suitcase, give quick hugs goodbye, and head for the airport.

I’m beginning to doubt that there is any more to Tucson than a couple of restaurants.

But spending the past few days with my good friend made me smile.

Have a great weekend.

Friday Book Whimsy: The All-Girl Filling Station’s Last Reunion

imgresFannie Flagg knows how to tell a great story. I have felt this way ever since I read Fried Green Tomatoes at the Whistle Stop Cafe, which will always be one of my favorite books.

Reading anything written by Flagg is like sitting in a comfortable chair next to a fireplace listening to your grandmother or a favorite aunt tell you a story. The characters may be too quirky to be believable. The plot may wobble in parts. But you can count on a good story.

Sookie Poole is entering a new phase of her life. Her last daughter has gotten married and Sookie is looking forward to spending more time with her husband enjoying their life together. That is, until one day she opens a certified letter addressed to her mother – an erratic social climber who lives in an assisted living community and for whom Sookie has power-of-attorney. What she finds in the letter completely changes what she knows about her past, present, and future.

Sookie begins a quest to learn more about her past, and Flagg’s story begins.

Meet Fritzi and her family who run a gas station in the 30s in the Midwest. When TB puts her father in the hospital and World War II requires her brother’s services, the three girls take over the filling station. They also find their own ways to contribute to the war effort.

The more Sookie learns, the more confidence she gains in her own abilities. Trust Flagg to make you laugh out loud at some of the adventures Sookie faces. She reminded me of a great deal of Evelyn Couch of Fried Green Tomatoes fame. Tewanda! (Only pertinent to anyone who has read Fried Green Tomatoes.)

The All-Girl Filling Station’s Last Reunion was so much fun to read that I was sad to put it down.

Here is a link to the book.

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Thursday Thoughts

It’s a Boy! Or a Girl! Or Both!
Tuesday morning when I headed out by foot to Basha’s, I noticed something different about Mama Mockingbird in our tree out front. When I looked harder, I saw her, but I also saw another set of eyes. A baby mockingbird! If you look really carefully, there might be another set of eyes as well.

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And this is when the drama begins. Mama M will feed the birds for a bit, but at some point she is going to force them to leave the nest. The cats/snakes/coyotes are eagerly awaiting that day. In the words of my son Court when asked if he wanted to go on a nature hike when he was about 7 years old, “I hate nature.”

And Here’s Why I Don’t Really Hate Nature
Bill and I went for a walk at nearby Red Mountain Park Monday morning. Red Mountain Park is lovely. There is a good-sized pond stocked with fish, and it is widely used. There is a nice playground for children. And there is a sidewalk that goes completely around the park that is 8/10ths of a mile around. Three laps nearly equal two-and-a-half miles in case you can’t do math. We saw the cutest thing ever. We saw a real Mother Goose, her beloved mate-for-life, and their goslings, somewhere in the neighborhood of eight or so. I am not Ansel Adams (though, in my defense, I’m using a crappy phone camera and not a cool and groovy camera with a fancy dancy lens), but you can kind of see the little goslings being led and followed by Mother and Father. You can see them all a bit better in the second photo. I wonder which was the female and which was the male.

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Now I Call This Huevos
I have mentioned before that there is a difference between the Mexican food they serve here and that which they serve in Colorado. Green chili is not a thing here. Chile verde, yes. Green chili with pork, not so much. When we were in Denver recently, we had breakfast at my favorite place for green chili in Denver – Santiago’s. They are renowned for their hot green chili. Normally, when I order a smothered burrito, I ask for half & half – half hot and half medium. Because I had been missing green chili so much, I ordered all of it hot. Oh. My. Heavens. It was H.O.T. indeed. But delicious. I ate every bite. My stomach spoke to me later and said, “Why oh why did you think this was a good idea?”

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Sailing
I have a friend visiting from Denver. To show off our beautiful area, we drove to Saguaro Lake yesterday afternoon. That is really one of my favorite drives ever. Our plan was to eat sandwiches at one of the picnic areas, and then return home. At the last minute, we decided to take the lake cruise on the Desert Belle. We were so glad we did. It was pretty and we all enjoyed it very much.

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I Have Croissant on My Back
As you know, I accompanied Bill Saturday when he enjoyed his NASCAR experience. As he awaited his ride, I sat amongst the other people who were watching their loved one or perhaps awaiting their own turn. There was a young man sitting with his girlfriend/wife waiting to drive one of the NASCARs. As I glanced at him, I saw the word Bagel tattooed onto his neck. I looked at it several times, all the time wondering why anyone would get the word Bagel tattooed onto their neck. Was he a baker? Did he run a Jewish deli? Did he simply like bagels so much that he wanted the word permanently placed on the neck where he could publicly declare his love of this chewy breakfast treat? Finally, I realized that the word was not Bagel; instead it was Angel.

bagel or angel PIR 4.16 (2)You won’t believe me at first, but look at the this photo and you will see that I am right.

bagel or angel PIR 4.16 (3)Now, arguably, it makes no sense to have the word Angel – or any other word, for that matter – tattooed permanently onto one’s neck, but I must admit it gave me some relief when I realized my mistake. Angel, next time you consider a tattoo, ask them not to make the curlicue on the A. And enjoy your bagel.

Ciao!

Slash

250px-JasonfIt was 23 years ago this past February that Bill and I bought our house in Denver. We had been married only eight months, and up until then, we had lived a few months in the little house Court and I owned near Washington Park. We sold that house in December, and spent the rest of the time in Bill’s big house near downtown Denver.

We were pretty open-minded when it came to choosing the house in which we knew we would live together for years and years. We claimed that we would live in any part of the metro area. And though we looked at houses throughout the metro area, when it came down to it, we only really felt comfortable when we were looking at houses in southeast Denver where both of us had lived all of our respective times in Denver.

We, of course, discussed what each of us was looking for in a house. I wanted an eat-in kitchen, a separate formal dining room, nearness to decent schools, and four bedrooms.

Bill’s list was much shorter, but quite a bit more difficult. Having lived in a beautiful large historic home that generated a lot of attention, here was his one and only request in a home: It had to have something special. When I would push him to try and find out what that meant, he would always answer the same: I don’t know what I mean, but I will know it when I see it.

It took some time to find our house, and quite frankly by the time we did, I had given up looking. “You go with the realtor,” I told him in my crabbiest manner. “You’re the one who wants something special, so you find it and let me know.

Well, he did, and the rest is history. By the way, the something special in our house was our huge and beautiful back yard and the steam room and sauna in the basement.

This is a long way of telling you that I loved the house immediately when I saw it, except for one thing.

“I will NOT be able to live with the paint color on the walls,” I said. It was this sort of dirty beige color that was wholly unattractive, and they had painted the ENTIRE HOUSE that color.

Well, ladies and gentleman, I am embarrassed to tell you that for the most part, our house remains that very same color 23 years later. We painted our living room, our kitchen, and our bedroom, but the rest of the house is this sort of dirty beige color that is still wholly unattractive.

Now let me tell you about my wonderful sister-in-law. Sami has exquisite taste. In addition, she has something I don’t – the wherewithal and creative spirit to actually do what it takes to make her house beautiful. And often at a whim. In fact, my brother claims that there have been several times when he has gone to bed at night and the kitchen was one color, and gotten up the next morning and the kitchen is an entirely different color.  (In addition to being a decorator, Sami is a night owl.)

I often think when they come to visit, Sami must sort of cringe when she comes in the door only to see the same walls, the same furniture, the same decorative theme. However, in addition to being a decorator and a night owl, she has good manners, and so doesn’t even so much as sigh.

Sami is the kind of person who, if something goes awry in their house, will get on the internet and figure out what’s going on. If possible, she will repair it herself, even if it requires power equipment. I am tentative when I have to move Bill’s unplugged weed wacker, and she is wielding chain saws. I love that woman.

The other night, my brother sent me a text message which included a photo……

sami with chainsaw

That day, Sami had gotten the chain saw she had ordered, and according to Dave, was extremely excited about it – sort of the way I felt when I got my Kitchenaid. There is no universe where a chain saw would excite me.

What I love most about the photo is that she is wielding the chain saw while wearing the frilly nightgown that Bec and I had gotten her recently for her birthday, and standing in front of a sign that says WELCOME.

She looks like Jason of Friday the 13th fame, only pretty.

Agape

Jen called me early Sunday morning, and she was very excited.

“I know you’re getting ready for church, but I just wanted to tell you that you are going to LOVE today’s readings,” she said. She knows me well.

I really did love all three of the readings.

First of all, the weeks following Easter Sunday, I enjoy the stories from the Acts of the Apostles. In fact, I like the stories so much that it makes me wonder why I don’t simply READ the Acts of the Apostles several times a year. It is my most sincere hope that I don’t get struck down by lightening generated by St. Paul, but I mostly enjoy reading about the time before Paul’s conversion. I love reading about the apostles’ enthusiasm right out of the box and St. Peter’s rather bungling ways. But in Sunday’s first reading, Peter is not bungling. He thumbs his nose at the Sanhedrin  when they tell the apostles that they must – they simply MUST – stop preaching about Jesus as they had been instructed. Peter tells them, “We must obey God rather than men.”

No bungling. As clear as a summer morning in the Rocky Mountains.

The second reading was from Revelation, but instead of being confusing, as I find most of the Book of Revelation, the message is clear: Worthy is the Lamb that was slain. And perhaps I like this reading because as the lector reads the words, I hear Handel’s version of Worthy is the Lamb that was slain being sung in my head. Next to the Hallelujah Chorus, that is my favorite Chorus in Handel’s Messiah.

But actually, what grabbed Jen’s attention and to what she wanted me to pay attention was the St. John’s Gospel. It was actually kind of a two part gospel. The first part tells the story of a handful of the apostles going out fishing and having a terrible day. They caught nothing. Suddenly, a man on the shore suggests they cast the net again, which they do. This time, the net is so full of fish that it begins to break. All of a sudden, they realize the stranger was actually Jesus. (Well, actually, in John’s gospel, here’s how he puts it: So they cast it, and were not able to pull it in because of the number of fish. SO THE DISCIPLE WHOM JESUS LOVED said to Peter, “It is the Lord.”

John refers to himself as the disciple whom Jesus loved several times thoughout his gospel, and it always makes me laugh. Biblical scholars probably have theories about this; I, on the other hand, always want to slap him aside the head and tell him to have some humility. It’s the mom in me.

The second part of the gospel tells us that Jesus takes Peter aside (ahem, leaving THE DISCIPLE WHOM JESUS LOVED behind; just sayin’) and asks him three times, “Simon Peter, do you love me?” Three times Peter says yes, getting a bit crabbier each time. I always found it understandable that Peter got annoyed. At first glance, Jesus sounds needy.

Here’s where Jen’s phone call came in. The homilist at her Mass explained why he believes Jesus asked three times. In the Greek language, there are three words for “love.” One refers to intimate love such as that between spouses. The second refers to the love one has for a friend. That word is phileo. The third refers to a deep and profound love, such as the love God has for us. That word is agape. In the Greek interpretation of this gospel, Jesus uses the word agape. When Peter responds to Jesus’ question, he uses the word phileo. Jen’s homilist suggests that Jesus wanted Peter to promise that he loves Jesus with agape love. It is only when Peter feels agape love that he can truly follow Christ.

I think that Jesus asks me every day of my life, Kristine Rae, do you love me? I’m pretty sure my answer is pretty much what Peter said. Of course I love you. But is it phileo or agape?

Guest Post: Driving Fast

By Bill McLain

Bill Hot Laps 2 4.16Three hot laps at Phoenix International Raceway. That was my Christmas gift from my son and daughter-in-law, David and Jll. Just like with all race cars participating in NASCAR, I had to enter the blue and white race car through the passenger side window opening, no easy task. There was no side window either, just a net, presumably to keep me in the car should the need arise (e.g., the car flips over). After I was buckled in, off we went out of the pits and onto the race track itself. The impression of speed and power was remarkable, and together with the sound of the lightly muffled engine, it made the ride one that I will not soon forget. Although the track is banked in the corners, centrifugal force had me hugging the passenger door (or where a door would be if there had been one), and my head pushed against the right side of the helmet. This may sound unpleasant, but it wasn’t.  It merely increased the sensation of speed and kept the adrenaline pumping.

The attached video will give you some idea of this experience, but to get the full benefit, you should “just do it.”

https://drive.google.com/file/d/0BzTPykCL25WoUHdZTnIwUUZZUFU/view

Nana’s Notes: My role was designated observer, and it was really fun to watch. I had wondered whether Bill would wish he could drive (another option that some were doing). However, at the end of it I knew (and he confirmed) that it was more fun to leave the driving to the professional driver. The people who were driving were being understandably more cautious, while Bill FLEW by. Those who know me and have seen how nervous a passenger I am will be surprised to learn that I think it would be fun to do what Bill did on Saturday. 

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Saturday Smile: Spring Break Travels

When we were in Denver this past weekend, all of our Colorado grands were at the tail end of their Spring Breaks. As you might recall, Kaiya and Mylee spent Saturday night at our house. For reasons I will never quite understand, those two girls think sleepovers at Nana’s are something special. They love packing their little suitcases for the night at our house, which is maybe 15 minutes south of us.

Court told me that he asked Mylee Monday night after her first day back from Spring Break whether any of her kindergarten classmates had done anything fun for spring break.

“Yes,” she told him. “Some played video games, and some took a trip. You know, like we took a trip to Nana’s house.”

Sweet girl. So easy to please.

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Have a great weekend.

Friday Book Whimsy: The Worst Hard Time

518eRa9qECL._SX331_BO1,204,203,200_I don’t read a lot of nonfiction. However, if there is a topic in which I’m interested, a book about that topic that has received pretty good reviews will grab my attention.

The Worst Hard Time was such a book. Author Timothy Egan tells the story of the Great Dust Bowl of the 1930s in such a way that it almost reads like a novel. I’m interested in that period of time because my mother and father, having been born in 1926, would have lived through the Great Depression in Nebraska. Though they would have been children, since they lived so close to the area that is designated the Dust Bowl, I’m sure they felt the effects.

Egan tells the story largely through the lives of six or seven families. He takes us through the years leading up to the tragic drought, years that were wetter than usual. The wet weather, along with the need for wheat to feed the troops during World War I, led to plowing up land not meant to be farmed. Subsequently, the drought resulted in land that would normally have been held into place by the natural grasses being literally blown away.

Egan’s stories – really the stories of the families – give a clear picture of an almost-unbelievable period of time in our history. Dust storms, dust-caused illness, famine, insects, and wind, wind, wind that literally drove people mad are presented like a horror story.

I will admit that, not being a particular lover of nonfiction, I sometimes skimmed through information that was particularly scientific in nature or just of little interest to me. But mostly I was riveted to the stories of these amazingly strong and resilient people who lived in the Dust Bowl (the panhandles of Oklahoma and Texas, a large part of Kansas, southeast Colorado and southern Nebraska).

People must literally have believed that the world was coming to an end. And yet, the area survived.

A wonderful read for anyone interested in U.S. history.

Here is a link to the book.

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