Saturday Smile: Growing Up

My grandkids are always good at making me smile. This week two things brought a smile to my face.

Our final two grandkids started school this week in Montpelier, Vermont. Joseph is in 5th grade and Micah is in 2nd grade. They look proud and excited on their first day….

Dave and Jll are visiting Greece, along with two very close friends. While they are gone, the grandparents (primarily Jll and Dave’s mothers) are responsible for the four kids. Ages 11 to 16, they really almost take care of themselves. They provide meals (with a little help from this nana) and spend the night. The other morning I was out for a walk, and I decided to drop in and see how things were going. I knew Addie and Alastair had already left for school, but I figured Dagny and Maggie Faith would still be around as their school starts later. I was right.

“How are things going?” I asked them. They said things were great. “Do you miss your mom and dad?” I asked. Maggie said she did. Thirteen-year-old Dagny’s response? “I miss them, but they’re really not essential.”

So take your time coming home Mom and Dad. Dagny, for one, seems to be doing fine.

Have a great weekend.

Friday Book Whimsy: The Summer Country

An epic mystery that takes place on a sugar plantation on the lush island of Barbados in the 1800s was a somewhat unexpected pleasure when it came to summer reading.

It’s 1854, and Emily Dawson is the daughter of a poor minister and his wife (who has devoted her life to fighting for the end of slavery). Being the poor relations, it was always expected that when her much-loved grandfather passed away, the family’s shipping business — which began in Barbados — would go to her cousin Adam. What wasn’t expected is that her grandfather would leave her the title to Peverills, a sugar plantation in Barbados.

Emily accompanies her cousin Adam and his wife to Barbados where she learns that Peverills is nothing but a crumbling burnt-down building, having been destroyed by a fire in 1816 by frustrated and angry slaves. What could her grandfather have been thinking?

Emily decides to stick it out and do some detective work of her own to try and find out her grandfather’s motives. What she, working alongside a black physician who was formerly a slave, discovers is a shocking secret that changes the way she looks at her life.

The Summer Country, by Laura Willig, is set against such a beautiful background that is in sharp contrast to the ugliness of slavery and the pretentions of the wealthy landowners. It seems not a whole lot changed between 1816 and 1854.

I enjoyed this novel a lot, admittedly largely because of its setting. Still, Willig knows how to spin a yarn and create unforgettable characters. It was a really good summer read.

Here is a link to the book.

Thursday Thoughts

One is the Lonliest Number
The other day I was picking up Adelaide from a friend’s house, and Maggie Faith was tagging along. Somehow we got talking about what she wanted to be when she grew up. A teacher, an author, and a mom, she told me.  No reason you can’t be all three, I said. She looked at me with eyes that said,  I know. That’s why I said AND instead of OR. But she kept quiet. And then we talked about her having three siblings, and whether or not she would want that many. She allowed as she would. I wouldn’t want to have an only child, she proclaimed. I explained to her that my son Court was my only child, but that he had a cousin who was like a brother to him. The very next day, my nephew Erik sent me a photo that he had come across of Court and his cousin B.J. when they were, what? six or seven? They were certainly like brothers, and know each others’ secrets, even today…..

Chicago Men
Earlier this week, Bill and I made a run to Bill’s favorite store, Home Depot. He coerced me into going along because he promised me a trip to Chicago Mike’s Beef and Dogs, which is not far from the hardware store. We were jonesing for some Chicago food. We each had a Chicago-styled hotdog and shared some fries and rings. As Bill went to refill his drink, I looked around and noticed the inordinate number of men in the restaurant…..

I don’t know why this is so, but it was striking. And the hot dogs were delish.

Tomato, Tomahto
I’m beginning to have more tomatoes than I can handle from my two plants. I had planted two types: Big Boys and something called Fourth of July. The latter are considerably smaller than the former. Yesterday afternoon, I took the smaller tomatoes, skinned them, and made salsa. I considered canning, but there weren’t quite enough and I wasn’t willing to use my bigger tomatoes, at least not yet…..

I got three big jars out of the crop, enough for Bill and me and some to share…..

See What?
Yesterday morning, I went to the eye doctor to begin discussions about cataract surgery. After a lot of tests, they informed me that my cataracts weren’t bad enough yet to be removed, at least if I wanted the surgery to be covered by insurance. I guess that is good news, except it means I will have to put up with the little blur in my right eye when I’m reading at night for a while longer.

Ciao!

Mr. Bainter the Painter Returns

Last fall, we had the inside of our house painted — at least most of it. Since we moved into our house in 1993, we painted the kitchen three or four times. All of our bedrooms had been painted at some point. But the rest of the house was the color of dirty snow, the same color it was when we first walked into the house. Our painter — whose name is decidedly NOT Mr. Bainter — was extraordinarily competent and thorough. He arrived every morning promptly at 8, unless he had to stop at the paint store. He left every evening promptly at 4:30. He worked in our house so long I was beginning to think he would show up at our Thanksgiving dinner.

At long last — after nearly a month — he finished. Our house was beautiful. The inside of our house at any rate. Unfortunately, the outside needed paint, and we knew another paint job was inevitable.

The time arrived this past Monday, when our painter — whose name, remember, is not Mr. Bainter — arrived to begin power washing our house. This thoroughness is one of the things I like about our painter. I’m sure all professional house painters start with a power wash. Others, however, might not get up on the ladder and say things like, “Holy crap, did you know your gutters are about two-thirds full of leaves?” and immediately begin cleaning them out.

Sure, work such as this will add some to the total cost of our job. The thing is, our gutters actually were two-thirds full of honey locust leaves, preventing them from doing their job properly. Sometimes it’s nice to be told what to do, even if it’s by someone you hardly know.

Yesterday, he arrived at our door with a can of paint and a handful of paint samples. We had showed him our initial choices which Bill had painted on the back wall. I’m pretty sure he threw up a little in his mouth. What he lacks in subtlety, he makes up for in earnestness. He didn’t hesitate to tell us that the yellowish-tan we were considering would make our house look like a gigantic banana when it was finished with that color. Good to know. The color of the paint in the can he proudly carried turns out to be perfect, and it’s the color we chose. Benjamin Moore’s Monroe Bisque, in case anyone is interested. He was pushing for dark brown trim, but I think we’re going to hold firm to something in the gray range. He’s not the boss of me.

Since it’s Day 3 and he’s still working on gutters, I think he might be pushing for Thanksgiving Dinner again this year.

By the way, Mr. Bainter the Painter was on that childhood program that clearly shaped who I am — Captain Kangaroo. According to Wikipedia, the man who played Mr. Bainter the Painter also played the Dancing Bear. He must have been a good actor, because the two don’t look at all alike. I know all hearts are filled with the deserving Mr. Rogers these days, but I will tell you that I spent a considerable amount of time with the Captain and Mr. Green Jeans.

Thrifty

I got a haircut yesterday. I was a bit early, so I sat down in the waiting area where I had plenty of time to read a magazine article that convinced me that Meghan and Kate are not mad at each other after all. It’s a great relief to know the two princesses are friends. (Although in one of the photos, Meghan’s back is to Kate, and I could swear Kate is whispering Meghan’s butt looks big in that dress to William. Might be my imagination.)

Anyhoo, my hair stylist finally came to lead me to her chair. As I followed her, I had two thoughts. Thought One: Why do all hair stylists wear black clothing? It seems to be the choice of hair salons around the world. Having people who cut hair for a living wear black seems as ironic to me as having bakers wear white. Sometimes when I meet my brother-the-baker for a cup of coffee, he has so much jelly on his bakers’ whites that it looks like he killed a steer instead of filled a few trays of bismarks. And Thought Two: Her bright orange shoes looked really cute as a contrast to her black smock and pants.

So I said to her, “I love your shoes. They are really cute as a contrast to your black smock and pants.”

Thank you, she replied. I got them at Goodwill.

I suck at Goodwill shopping. When I go into a Goodwill store, it is mostly to look for puzzles. But I will always stop to look at the clothing. All I ever find are blouses with discolored lace and and pants with frayed hems. And I’m usually pretty sure I donated them the week before. I really, truly rarely have any luck finding clothing at thrift stores. The primary reason for my lack of success is that any superior Goodwill shopper has lots of patience. I have a total lack of patience.

I’m not anti-thrift stores. I donate lots of stuff, and hope like heck that people will get Use-Part-II out of them. Thrift stores keep things out of landfills and help people save money. Both are good things.

I have a friend who is a remarkable thrift store shopper. I’m not sure if she still does, but I know that from the time she began shopping for herself, she shopped at thrift stores. And she always looks totally put together and never even remotely resembled the bag lady that I would look like if I bought my clothing at Goodwill. Not only that, but as her daughter grew up, she dressed her almost exclusively in clothing bought at thrift stores. She wore name brand clothing and looked just like every other teenager in the United States.

I only have one success story having to do with clothing from a thrift store. As I perused the pants, I came across a pair of really cute designer-brand pants in my size.

I tentatively took them to the dressing room (my apologies to thrift store shoppers everywhere, but the dressing rooms are scary) and tried them on. The pants were a perfect fit, not even requiring any hemming. The best part of all is that the pants were only $6 and STILL HAD THE TAGS ATTACHED. Goooooooooooooooooal!

I will continue to donate to Goodwill, and will continue to optimistically look at the clothing when I pay my puzzle-searching visits. I will probably NOT, however, consider buying shoes despite my hair stylist’s apparent success. Perhaps that decision is based on the look and smell of my own shoes, which I send to the landfill.

Nana’s Whimsies

I started blogging in 2008 as a way to stay in touch with family while we were on our three-month European adventure. I had been trying to figure out how to stay in touch with people who would not only be worried about us, but would be interested in what we were doing each day. Why not write a blog? my daughter-in-law Lauren suggested.

A what?

I was being perfectly serious. It was 2008, and I had never heard that word: Blog.

Blogging began sometime in the late 1990s, but surged in popularity in the first few years of the 21st Century. Apparently I was stuck somewhere in the late 20th Century, where I was finally comfortable with email. So when Lauren saw the blank look on my face and understood that her mother-in-law was technologically delayed, she showed me how to set up a blog. Hence, the Reluctant Traveler was born.

Well, much to my surprise, readers included not just my family, but many others as well. Acquaintances, friends of friends, people with whom I hadn’t spoken in years all followed our adventures via my blog. And when we returned, many of them asked me if I would keep writing the blog. I told them I wouldn’t continue, because now that I wasn’t traveling, what in the world would I talk about?

But people kept asking, and my sister Jen, in particular, pushed me to consider writing a blog. But I have nothing of interest to write about, I kept saying. Write about your life from your own perspective, she replied.

Finally, on August 14, 2013, I kicked off Nana’s Whimsies with a post cleverly entitled Hi There! It’s no wonder people wanted me to continue blogging. Such adroit writing!

So here it is, August 2019, and I have blogged nearly every day except Sunday since then. I’ve missed a few days, it’s true, mostly due to hospital visits; sometimes due to sheer laziness. People often ask me if it’s hard to write something every day. My reply is always the same: Once I have thought of something to write about, the writing comes easy. I love to write. But you can likely tell the days that I’m struggling with subject matter because the blog is B-O-R-I-N-G. But I plug right on.

Jen suggested to me recently that to make it easier on myself, I should consider only writing Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays, or some other iteration of Not Every Day. I’m not ready to do that and here’s why: I recently was listening to a podcast that features two of my favorite writers who began their careers writing blogs back in the early 2000’s. One of them told the other that after having written a blog daily for many years, one day she decided she would take a day off. She never wrote regularly again. I have no doubt that is what would happen to me. I need the regularity of daily blog writing.

I will tell you that I hesitated starting this blog because I couldn’t imagine that anyone would care a bit about my life. While my numbers aren’t staggering, I have a very steady 100 or so readers of my blog. A friend of mine who is a fairly recent and now faithful reader told me that she loves to hear my stories about my family and my simple life. That bewilders me, yet I am so pleased.

I know that blogging is now old social media. Nevertheless, just as I was stuck in the 1990s with email, I’m sticking with blogging for the time being. Podcasting is the new social media du jour, but while I listen to podcasts, that ain’t my cup of tea. While I never say never, I am pretty sure I never will do a podcast. I don’t even like talking on the telephone.

Anyway, thanks for reading my simple blog.

Here are some of the real stars of my blog…..

Saturday Smile: Back to School, Part II

This past week, our McLain grandkids started back to school. Addie is a high school junior and Alastair is a newbie high school freshman…..

Magnolia started middle school, where she is in the sixth grade. Dagny is in the eighth grade of middle school…..

They have one week of school under their belts. I am eager to hear about their week, and hope it was a good one.

Have a great weekend.

 

 

Friday Book Whimsy: Becoming Mrs. Lewis: The Improbable Love Story of Joy Davidman and C.S. Lewis

I have always found C.S. Lewis to be an amazingly interesting person. He was a lackadaisical Christian who became an apologist for Christian teachings and philosophy as an adult having been influenced by friends J.R.R. Tolkien and G.K. Chesterton. He was married to writer Joy Davidman, with whom he shared an enormous love.

Becoming Mrs. Lewis, by Patti Callahan, is a mostly-based-on-reality story of how the two writers met and fell in love. Joy Davidman was married to another writer who was an abusive alcoholic with two children when she began a correspondence with the writer C.S. Lewis. Once an atheist and communist, Davidson was converted to the Christian belief following what she saw as a miracle involving her husband after fervent prayer.

Her relationship with her husband was failing, and she finally left to spend some time in England where she met with and began a friendship with C.S. Lewis that changed her life. Later, she divorced her husband and moved her children to England, where they spent their remaining formative years with their mother and C.S. Lewis, who finally married in 1956.

The book is based on truth. The story is so interesting that the fact that the story moves pretty slowly and there are far too many words (was there an editor?) didn’t deter from the interesting tale. The author’s story made me wish that I, too, could have been a friend of C.S. Lewis.

In real life, Davidman and Lewis only had four years together as husband and wife. She died of cancer, and he died a few years later. If you have read any of his books about his faith — particularly  A Grief Observed — you become very familiar with the love between the two of them, and the love and belief he had in Christianity.

I recommend the book if you don’t mind a bit of slow read.

Here is a link to the book.

 

 

Thursday Thoughts

It’s Hot
A while back I wrote about my first experience with hot pot cooking. That’s the Asian cooking style in which the diners choose their protein and their vegetables and their add-ins and cook it right at the table in a broth of their choice…..

It was so much fun, and I was eager to share the experience with Bec, who is making a quick stop here in Denver before leaving once again for her Chandler, AZ, home. I asked my daughter-in-law Alyx to join us, and she suggested we try another place about which she had been made familiar — Seoul Hot Pot and BBQ. It was nearer our house and turned out to be not only as good as Aki, but even better. After my first experience with hot pot, I took Addie for her birthday treat. She loved it, and I am eager to show her this new place.

Cracks and Booms
It’s been some time since we’ve had a thunderstorm here in Denver, and we are in need of rain. We managed to get our turkey legs cooked on the grill  last night before the boomers started. In fact, our phones were warning us about flood danger. The truth is, the storm really never amounted to much, at least not here in our neck of the woods. Perhaps other areas got a bit more of the storm. I was kind of in the mood for a good storm, and definitely in the mood for rain. Not to be, at least not yesterday.

Is This Fresh?
I simply love the fresh produce that is available at this time of the year in Colorado. The Rocky Ford melons — both cantaloupe and watermelons are available. Rocky Ford is located in the southeast corner of Colorado, and produces some of the best melons you can imagine. In addition, the Olathe sweet corn has started showing up in the markets. Olathe is located on the western slope, which is also the area that the sweetest and most delicious peaches are picked. It’s a good time to be in Colorado.

Updates
A few people have asked me how my sewing is going. Well, it isn’t. I still haven’t gotten the nerve to drag the circa 1930 cast iron sewing machine up from the basement. Also, Court’s surgery went very well, and he is back at work and feeling 100 percent! God is good.

Cutting Edge Gift
My friend Denice makes these intricately handcrafted showpieces made from old books. Using a pattern, she cuts each page to make a picture. I have long admired her handiwork, and this week she surprised me with a gift that recognizes my love for reading. You can’t tell it from the photo, but the book she chose is one of my all-time favorites: Jane Eyre. Isn’t it lovely?…..

Ciao!

 

Binged

As I was growing up, the only people who binged were those unfortunate souls who were anorexic and/or bulimic. They binged on food. While I have always, well, let’s say enjoyed my food, I can’t say that I’ve ever binged in that way.

These days, while food binging is still a thing, the term is generally used in reference to watching programs on streaming television, one right after another.

My nephew Carter recently binge-watched Death in Paradise, which left Netflix on July 31. He was determined to see all of the programs before they went away, and he was successful. My sister Bec — his nana — commented on his having successfully watched all of the programs. His response was that the idea of watching one program on, say Monday night, and then having to wait until the next Monday to watch it again like she had to do when she was a kid seemed weird. She didn’t have the nerve to tell him that in those days, she had to get up from the couch and walk over to the television to change the channel. She didn’t think his heart could take it.

When I first retired, I rarely watched daytime television. And then, one day, I started watching a television program — it might have been The Closer — and I discovered binge-watching. I believe there are seven seasons of that program, and I sat there and watched one program after another. I didn’t finish all the seasons in one day, but over the course of a week or two, I watched them all. And then I binge-watched Endeavor. And Downton Abbey. And Broadchurch. And Grace and Frankie. And The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel. I was off to the races.

Bill doesn’t understand binge-watching television. Frankly, for the most part, he can’t imagine sitting in a chair for several hours and watching television when he could be out cutting up the hot tub or installing wood floors. Go figure. He will walk by my chair on his way to the garage, and shake his head. My back is to him, but I know he’s doing it.

Right now I’m binge-watching Midsommer Murders. That’s glorious fun, because there are 19 full seasons on Netflix. NINETEEN. I watch one or two programs a day. I adore British PBS mysteries. I love that the police never have guns. They crash into an apartment in which they know there is a bad guy, and there is nary a gun to be seen. They simply pummel the bad guy who just lays there and takes it. While the murderers occasionally use a gun to do their dastardly deed, for the most part, they prefer bashing in the victims’ heads with Things Very British like cricket bats or crochet mallets. They also love a good poison.

Having said all of the above, I will admit — to Carter’s chagrin if he knew — that there is one program that I watch live every Friday night, commercials notwithstanding. I love to watch Blue Bloods on Friday night right when it’s happening. My sister Jen and I will text during the show, seeing if we can be the first one to hear Frank Reagan sigh.