Sunrise, Sunset

It is the most unlikely of friendships.

I didn’t meet her until I was 7 years old – second grade, when she began attending my school. Up until then, I knew everyone in my class because they all lived in my neighborhood and had gone to school with me since kindergarten. But I didn’t know her.

She had bright red hair braided tightly into two plaits that stuck out from the side of her head, freckles, and a crooked grin. I, on the other hand, had mousy brown hair, cut into a pixie style, and crooked bangs. She was funny and laughed readily. I was quiet and shy, uncomfortable with anyone I didn’t know. For reasons I’ll never be able to explain, we hit it off from the get-go.

In third grade we sat behind the fitzer bushes in front of my house and read Nancy Drew. We took our shots at writing The Great American Mystery Story, and proudly turned them into our teacher. Miss Gasper managed to accept them without laughing.

In fifth grade we decided to memorize the Gettysburg Address and volunteered to recite it in front of the class for extra credit. I knew every word, but didn’t even open my mouth the entire time. We hadn’t exactly planned our presentation, and so she started out and it went from there. I remember our teacher telling me quietly, “Kristine, you didn’t really participate much.” Rats.

In sixth grade we made prank phone calls for laughs. Poor Fred Hamburger (his real name). We would take turns. Ring ring ring. “Hello?” “Hello Mr. Hamburger,” one of us would say. “I’m in a real pickle.” Or, “I don’t think you’re cutting the mustard.” Or something equally hilarious. Not surprisingly, Mr. Hamburger eventually got an unlisted number.

Saturday afternoons we spent window shopping or drinking cherry cokes at Tooley’s Drug Store or making prank phone calls from the pay phone at Tooley’s to the pay phone across the street in the town park.  Or, once the one department store in Columbus got an elevator, we would spend an afternoon riding the elevator. That’s all. Just riding the elevator.

High school and college took us different directions, but we remained friends. As adults, I was a part of her wedding and she was a part of mine. I attempted to calm her angst as she and her husband went through their fertility issues, and she saved my life as I went through my divorce. I could call her any time, day or night, and she would listen. Sometimes all I would do is cry. And she let me.

She still lives in Nebraska, and I’m far away in Colorado and/or Arizona. We probably only talk a few times a year. But when we do, it’s like we talked last week.

Caitlin paid a visit to us yesterday.

Caitlin paid a visit to us yesterday.

All of this is to say that yesterday afternoon, her daughter, now an adult with a master’s degree and a grown-up job, came to visit and spend the night. I hadn’t seen her for a very long time, but, just as with my friend, it was like we talked last week. She’s a funny combination of her mother and her father, both who are vastly different from one another (but somehow it works). It makes me happy to see that my friend has produced a lovely grown-up human being, intelligent, likeable, and oh-so-funny, just like her mother.

Sunrise, sunset.

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Friday Book Whimsy: The Midwife of Hope River

searchThink PBS’s wonderful series Call the Midwife meets the classic epic The Grapes of Wrath, and you will have a sense of the flavor and heft of Patricia Harman’s wonderful debut novel The Midwife of Hope River. Harman is, herself, a trained midwife, so her tale has a realistic and readable feel. Prior to this novel, Harman wrote a couple of autobiographical books about the science of midwifery.

In an effort to escape her past, our protagonist changes her name to Patience Murphy and moves somewhere where no one will find her – the Appalachian Mountains of West Virginia. She has some training as a midwife, and she uses her skills in her new home to provide services for the women of her town. The time period: just after the stock market crash of 1929.

Times are tough, and money is scarce. But Patience lives a good life far away from her past and delivers babies for blacks and whites, those with money and those without, without questions. After all, she has her own history. She is often paid in flour or corn meal or a freshly-killed chicken rather than money. It’s the Great Depression.

The story is slow moving, but told in a beautiful manner. We eventually learn about Patience’s past, but the author takes her time letting us know the truth. In the meantime, we get to know Patience’s heart, and can’t help but love her.

The Midwife of Hope River is a history lesson as well as a novel. It provides information about race relations, medical care in the early 20th century, midwifery, the dangers of coal mining, the Depression, and the fight for safe working conditions. But we are also told about the satisfaction of friendship and love.

Like Call the Midwife, there are vivid descriptions of childbirth. I was somewhat concerned that reading about birth after birth after birth would get old, but it didn’t. The details weren’t graphic, and the care and love shown by Patience and her apprentice, African-American Bitsy, makes for fine reading. You can certainly tell the author is a midwife.

I loved this book. I had never heard of it until I came across its sequel, The Reluctant Midwife, via Book Bub. I am looking forward to reading on about the characters of Hope River. Definitely a woman’s book, but one worth reading.

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Thursday Thoughts

What Does the Fox Say?
The first three weeks or so after we got back to Denver, we saw regular appearances of our backyard friend Mr. Fox. I make it sound as if every year it’s the same fox, and that isn’t so. In fact, the fox we saw in May and early June had a lot of black fur on its red back, something the others didn’t. Suddenly, however, the fox has been nowhere to be seen. Generally that means something bigger is probably making nighttime visits – like Wile E. Coyote. Last weekend we had friends over for dinner. Seven-year-old Anthony asked Bill if he thought he would get a chance to see the fox that visits our back yard. Bill admitted that he probably wouldn’t since the fox hasn’t been around. Around 8:30 that evening, they were getting ready to leave. Suddenly Anthony shouts, “Is that a fox?” We look out, and sure enough, Mr. Fox made a special visit so that Anthony could say hello. Since then, nary a glimpse of him again.

A Man for All Seasons
I have mentioned that we are in the process of remodeling our kitchen. Nothing substantial (besides a new dishwasher). Mostly paint and other bill sewing valancecosmetic upgrades. But the paint job hasn’t been particularly easy. Prior to the remodel, my kitchen was all yellow. Now there is some gray, some blueish green, and some white. Quite a bit of detail work. It has kept Bill incredibly busy. Since we began, he has installed a new dishwasher, put up bead board, replaced grate covers, and painted, painted, painted. But that isn’t all. The other day I brought home material to make window treatments that I saw on Pinterest – no-sew faux Roman shades. Emphasis on the no-sew, because I can’t sew a single stitch. I had no sooner walked in the door, however, when Bill stopped what he was doing to sew my no-sew faux Roman shades. “It will just look nicer if it’s neatly hemmed rather than glued,” he said. And of course, he was right. The man does it all.

Watermelon
There are a few fruits that aren’t good until they’re good. Tomatoes are one example. watermelonUntil fresh tomatoes become available mid- to late-summer, they’re mostly mealy and flavorless. Another example is watermelon. I bought a watermelon a few weeks ago, and it had no taste. But the past couple of days I have been eating wonderfully sweet watermelon. I eat it the same way my mom did, lots of salt. It makes for a wonderful solution to a sweet tooth after dinner.

Speaking of Sweet Tooth
When last I visited my doctor for my annual physical, the results of my blood test came back indicating my blood sugar was a bit high. Nothing I’m particularly worried about at this point, my doctor told me. Still, she said it would behoove me to lose a few pounds and cut back on carbs. Whaaaaaaaaaat? Cut back on what? Because, you see, I’m addicted to carbs. Though I’m not proud of that fact, I’m afraid it’s true. Not all carbs. Bread? I could take it or leave it. Potatoes? I’ll nibble on French fries but they don’t necessarily call to me. But pasta? Oh yeah Baby. And my glass of wine at night? I drink it for the health benefits, donchaknow. So a couple of weeks ago, I went a week of eating carb-free. I lived off of meat and a salad until I thought I would kill myself. By Thursday I was so tired and crabby that I just wanted to go to bed and Bill wanted me to so that I would quit nagging him. But I was successful, and I lost a couple of pounds. I have started cheesecakeadding some carbs back into my diet, but thus far I’m trying to limit them to so-called good carbs. Mostly fruit and some bread. I have had one or two glasses of wine but no dessert. Well, except for the piece of homemade cheesecake I had the night we entertained. Does that count?

sloppy joe potato chipsAnd I Thought Sour Cream and Onion was Crazy
I was at the grocery store yesterday and as I rushed towards the check-outs (I was in a hurry as usual), I went past a display of potato chips. I did a double take, and turned around to look again. Yep. Sloppy Joe flavored potato chips. Seriously? Along with Sloppy Joe, there was also Sweet Corn Potato Chips and Baby Back Rib Potato Chips. You could actually have an entire barbecued dinner with only potato chips. I’ll take plain Lays, thank you very much.

Corny Cole
Finally, Cole Jonathon was over for dinner the other night and enjoyed an ear of sweet corn (real sweet corn, not potato chips). And when I say enjoyed, I mean ENJOYED.

corny cole

Ciao.

Reluctant Traveler: Into Africa

My sister Bec recently returned from a trip-of-a-lifetime, a safari to Tanzania and Kenya in Africa. Today, and for the next three Wednesdays, she will tell you about her exciting trip.

By Rebecca Borman

bec-closeup-twoFor a long time, one of my travel goals was to visit Africa to view the wildlife there.  A few years ago, my husband and I started some serious planning for such a trip, but life happened and the trip did not.  About a year ago, I wondered if I was ready to try it again.  I asked my daughter if she would be interested in going, and she gave me a resounding Yes!  And so, the planning began again.

tanzania kenya mapI did a little research and decided that Tanzania was where I wanted to go, and I hoped to visit another country as well.  I ended up choosing Kenya, mostly because it borders Tanzania and because most everyone I know who has been to Africa has been to Kenya.

To be honest, the planning was somewhat overwhelming.  There are so many things to consider.  For instance, it take over 24 hours to get to Eastern Africa from the west coast, so it seemed like we should be in Africa for at least 10 days to make the traveling worthwhile.  How and where to spend those 10 days?  I left a lot of that up to our excellent travel company, and was happy with what our agent came up with.  Once we had our itinerary in place, there was still lots of preparation.

I knew I would need some immunizations, so I looked on-line to get an idea of what that would involve.  A lot, apparently.  A trip to my primary care doctor was really helpful.  She took the time to research the areas we would be visiting and helped me to identify the required immunizations and to determine which of the optional ones I should get.  I did what I could in that office and then made another several trips to a travel clinic.  I was so impressed with the travel nurse.  She walked me through the immunization process, discussed insect repellent and sunscreen needs, and advised me to take an antibiotic along, just in case.  In my daughter’s case, her travel clinic actually prepared a personalized, bound document for her, describing the areas we would visit, their customs, and other pertinent information.  Note to self:  Travel clinics are awesome!

Another big question was what to pack.  I read the information sent by the travel company and verified that we were, indeed, limited to a maximum of 33 pounds, including both checked and carry-on bags.  And, said bags needed to be completely soft…no hard shells, or even wheels.  Yikes!  Everyone I spoke to and everything I read said that 2-3 outfits would be sufficient, and that it wasn’t necessary to buy special “safari” clothing.  Fortunately, however, I already owned two safari-type shirts and a pair of safari pants.  To those I added enough clothes to have a total (including what I wore) of three outfits, plus a somewhat nicer shirt for dinners.  I was advised that mornings and evenings might be cool, so I added a sweater.  The only things I purchased specifically for the trip were a pair of slip-on sneakers and a multi-pocket vest, both of which I wore the entire trip.

Of course, I didn’t just take clothes.  I brought a good pair of binoculars, a wildlife book, first-aid articles, medications, a flashlight, sunscreen, insect repellent, voltage adapters, chargers, etc.  It doesn’t sound like much, but it seemed like my suitcase was much bigger, bulkier, and heavier than my daughter’s.  And I never did figure out why.  I will say, though, that I did a good job.  There were only a couple of things I didn’t use or wear, and I feel like they were still sensible to take along.

And then there were those issues I worried about but couldn’t really prepare for.  The journey to Africa was daunting to me.  From Phoenix, I would fly to Detroit, change planes, fly to Amsterdam, change planes, and finally fly to Kilimanjaro in Tanzania.  My daughter was coming from L.A.; we would meet in Amsterdam and fly together from there.  But, what if one of the planes was late and we didn’t connect with each other?  How would we communicate?  How/when would the one left behind get to Tanzania?  Well, those problems couldn’t be solved until, well, they were actually problems.  But, we made “what-if “plans about how to communicate with each other and the travel company if anything went wrong.

Before I knew it, I was on my way to the airport, ready to start my journey.  I was often asked what I expected from the trip.  My honest answer was, “I don’t have any idea.”  Obviously, I hoped for good wildlife viewing; I had chosen a time that had the potential for it.  But, no one, not even the best guide, can guarantee that the animals will be around.  So, I hoped to see the “Big 5” but didn’t count on it.  Other than that, I had no idea what to expect.  Would it really be that impressive to see lions or elephants or giraffes in their natural habitat?  What does Tanzania look like?  Would we get a sense of the culture or would we be too programmed and isolated for that to happen?  What would it be like to spend a week with one driver/guide in an open truck?  What does the term “luxury hotel” mean in Tanzania?

When I got on the plane in Phoenix, I literally took a deep breath and stepped into the biggest adventure of my life.