A Wink and a Smile

searchAny of my Catholic readers who still go to church (really, probably any churchgoers who regularly attend a specific service) will agree with me that different Masses or church services have different personalities. It likely has something to do with the kind of music that is being played, or maybe the time of day, or perhaps whether or not it is a high Mass (in the case of Catholics).

For example, often Catholic churches offer a 5 o’clock Sunday evening Mass. When this is so, it is almost always aimed at a teenaged audience. This is a desperate (and I hope, successful) attempt to keep our youth going to church. So the personality of a Sunday night Mass is decidedly different that the 7 or 7:30 Mass that was held that morning, which draws almost exclusively a senior population.

For our part, Bill and I almost always shoot for a Mass that is in the neighborhood of 9 o’clock on Sunday morning. This time frame seems to draw a bit of an eclectic crowd – a mix of old and young, adults and kids, devoted Catholics and those who drop in occasionally. I like the mix.

Once in a while, however, we hit a Saturday evening Mass. There is almost always a specific reason we attend that Mass. For some reason or the other, we will be unable to attend Mass on Sunday. That’s why we were at Mass this past Saturday afternoon at our church in Arizona. Bill was unable to go to Mass Sunday because he was being picked up at the crack of dawn by my brother so they could get to the NASCAR raceway long while the drivers were still wiping the sleep from the corner of their eyes.

Saturday night Mass at our church here in Mesa has a decidedly unique personality. But I bet it doesn’t differ a whole lot from Saturday afternoon Masses anywhere. It’s a bit like going to a joyful – if somewhat irreverent – neighborhood gathering.

For one thing, while the majority of people dress up on Sunday mornings – perhaps not a suit and dress, but at least something they could wear to a nice restaurant – Saturday afternoon it is no holds barred. You will see it all. Shorts, blue jeans, halter tops, a nice dress or two, or something indicating they just stepped off the golf course about 30 minutes ago. I am not complaining. I am in the camp that doesn’t judge what people are wearing as long as they are making the effort to go to church. Heck, I myself, while wearing nice pants and a clean top, had on a pair of flip flops.

People tend to be a bit more talkative and jolly throughout the Mass. So jolly, in fact, that the gentleman behind me – a young man of 30-something – actually gave me a wink during the handshake of peace. Normally, this is a somewhat quiet and softly cordial greeting inexplicably held right before our hopefully solemn reception of the Eucharist. But yep, I got a handshake and a big ol’ wink. I couldn’t help but laugh.

It was kind of a funny service even before The Wink. Our parish is staffed by a pastor, an associate pastor, and a bevy of priests who lived most of their lives in Minnesota and subsequently retired in Arizona. So they hover around the age of 80, but I’m happy to say are a pleasant bunch and quite spry, all things considered. (It’s true, I must admit, there is one who passes out occasionally when the temperature is a bit warm in the church. But he always cheerfully rebounds by the next Mass, so no harm, no foul.) The priest who said our Mass Saturday is one of our favorites. While I know nothing about him beyond the fact that he hails from Minnesota and has been a priest for 56 years (a fact I learned at that very Mass), he has a very pleasant voice and gives an interesting – and almost always quite short – homily, which he has written out on a piece of paper. Saturday was a bit different. Not only was his sermon quite lengthy, but he addressed the wrong gospel.

Occasionally – mostly around Easter – the Church offers two options for the readings. This past weekend, Option 1 was the story about Jesus raising his friend Lazarus from the dead. This gospel is a particular favorite of mine as it includes the shortest verse in the bible – Jesus wept (John 11:35). I love that verse because it reminds me of Jesus’ humanity, and makes me realize that Jesus loves us all so much that he is sad when we fall away from him. Option 2 was St. John’s gospel about the prostitute who was about to be stoned until Jesus reminded the crowd that they were all sinners and suggested let the one among you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone (John 8:7).

Our parish chose Option 1. The deacon dutifully read the lengthy gospel about Lazarus being raised from the dead. The priest, who unfortunately either wasn’t listening to the gospel reading or had already written his homily and, by God, was going to give it no matter what, ignored Lazarus and instead talked about the prostitute.  It caught us all off guard for a bit, and you could see people scrambling to figure out how Lazarus (or Lazaruth, which is how the deacon pronounced it for some reason) and the prostitute were connected.

Father’s homily, the Nigerian priest who addressed us at the end of Mass but unfortunately had such a strong accent that we couldn’t understand a single word he said (but he kept holding up two books that I’m pretty sure he wanted us to purchase), and the fact that the drummer in the choir loft upstairs dropped his drum not once, but twice, making considerable noise and startling all of us awake, made for an interesting, if not particularly spiritual, experience.

Oh, and The Wink.

What Time is It?

imagesI’m in a fight with Daylight Savings Time.

Don’t get me wrong. Overall, I’m a fan of springing ahead. As much – perhaps more – than the next guy, I love that it’s lighter later. I especially love it in the summer when we can – and do – sit out into the evening enjoying our pretty patio outside our Denver house.

The most significant problem I have with Daylight Savings Time is that it comes while we are in Arizona. As you may or may not know, Arizona doesn’t observe Daylight Savings Time. Their resistence is singular among all of the states in our United States. As I recall, there is a stubborn county or two in Indiana which, for inexplicable reasons, also doesn’t move the hands of their clocks twice a year. Arizona’s reason, however, is explicable. Why on earth would anyone want to extend daylight in the summer when temperatures hover in the low hundreds? The setting sun is a welcome sight. The temperature plummets to the 90s at night.

My practical problem with DST is that suddenly, beginning at 2 o’clock in the morning on the day of the time change, my peeps in Denver are an hour ahead of me. My peeps in Vermont are three hours ahead of me.  This reality requires me to do math in order to know if now is an appropriate time to call.

Jen and I talk a couple of times a week, and nearly always while she is driving to work. That is around 8 in the morning. By that time, I have a couple of cups of coffee in me, I have posted my blog and gone through my emails, Bill and I have eaten breakfast, and I am relaxed and ready to talk on the telephone. Now if and when she calls me, it will be 7 o’clock in the morning my time and I am liable to sound more like a zombie than an intelligent human being.

By the way, here is what our telephone calls generally sound like…..

Jen: Did you watch American Idol last night? Didn’t Trent sound so good? I think he is in the running to win.

Me: I did watch, but I was distracted by my concern that J-Lo was going to encounter a wardrobe malfunction and the audience would see more of her than normal, if, indeed, that is possible.

Or maybe…..

Jen: What are you making for dinner tonight?

Me: I put a roast in the crock pot. That way it will be ready when I get home from work. Oh, that’s right. I don’t work any longer.

And NEVER, EVER…..

Me: Did you watch the presidential debate last night?

Jen: Of course I did. The Bachelor was on opposite, but I felt it was much more important to watch the debate.

Me: I agree. Have you decided yet which of the two evils you will be voting for?

Last year Alastair, his father and his Uncle Allen attended the race. Dave had to leave and left Alastair to his Papa Bill's tutelage. I don't believe Alastair has since given up beer and cigars!

Last year Alastair, his father and his Uncle Allen attended the race. Dave had to leave and left Alastair to his Papa Bill’s tutelage. I believe Alastair has since given up beer and cigars!

The other reason for my lack of enthusiasm for the arrival of DST is that our technology gets so confused. Some of them understand the concept of being in Arizona Mountain Time and not Mountain Daylight Time and change accordingly (or more aptly, don’t change), but others don’t. For example, yesterday Bill and my brother Dave went to the NASCAR race at Phoenix International Speedway. Bill dutifully set his alarm for 5:15 because my brother was picking him up at 6. (The race begins at 12:30, but for reasons I don’t quite understand, they feel compelled to get out early to get a jump start on the beer drinking and eardrum splitting.) Anyway, a 5:15 awakening is not terribly unbearable as I nearly always get up sometime between 5:30 and 6 anyway. But at 4:15 our time, Bill’s alarm cheerfully went off. Bill awoke from his dead sleep ready to spring into the shower. It took some gentle, but relentless coaxing to get him to understand that his telephone (on which he had set the alarm) apparently thought it was in Denver and sprang forward. He went back to sleep. I didn’t. We will spend the next couple of days convincing our technology that we aren’t observing DST.

So, friends and family, for the next couple of months, think of me as a Californian. At least as far as what time it is.

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Saturday Smile: May the Force Be With You

(SPOILERS GALORE!)

han and reyYesterday Bill and I went to see Star Wars: The Force Awakens. I almost called it “the new Star Wars movie”, but realize that we are among the last to see it in the movie theater so it clearly isn’t “new” to most folks. We weren’t alone, however. There were actually quite a few others, mostly senior citizens. But I’ll bet we were the only ones who got in free because Bill got free tickets from his oral surgeon!

I had carefully avoided reading anything about this most recent episode because I wanted to be surprised. I had heard about Han’s demise, however. My brother believes there is wiggle room to bring Han back in further episodes. I disagree. He was pierced all the way through with a light saber and plummeted hundreds of feet into some abyss. I think it’s bye-bye Han, sad as that made me (and Chewie).

For the record, I haven’t seen the three most recently-made Star War movies. I only saw the original three — Star Wars (1977), The Empire Strikes Back (1980), and Return of the Jedi (1983). Court was born in 1980. The Star Wars trilogy was a big part of our lives. He and I watched the movies something like 1,500 times. He had all of the character figurines. He had a toy millennium falcon. He had plastic light sabers. He had X fighters and H fighters and every sort of vehicle imaginable. He LOVED those movies, and frankly, so did I.

So at the beginning of this movie, when the music started, and I saw the narration scrolling across the screen just as it had in those original three movies (and possibly all of them, but see above. I only saw the three originals), I smiled. It made me happy. And I’m not ashamed to tell you (and I swear this is the truth), I teared up when I saw the millennium falcon (though I must admit I can’t quite understand why it took Han and Chewie so many years to find it).

Now I just have one question: If I want to watch ALL of the Star Wars movies, do I watch IV, V, and VI first, and then I, II, and III, or do I watch them in order I, II, III, IV, V, VI, and now VII?

Jessie? Anyone? Anyone?

Have a great weekend.

Thursday Thoughts

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Austin and Lilly

Catch My Show in Poughkeepsie
We miss our grandkids a bunch. Oh, we miss our kids too, but what can I say? There is something about our grandkids. Quite frankly, I’m using my siblings’ grandkids as filler because, well, they’re all here. Tuesday night I babysat Austin and Lilly while Mark and Maggie went on a work-related dinner thingy. I decided that there is nothing cuter than 2-year-olds. They can understand everything you say to them. They can communicate with you, either through rudimentary language or, in Lilly’s case, something a bit more vocal. As I watch Lilly, I can hardly wait to get home to see how my own little almost-2-year-old Cole is doing. (He will be 2 in May.) For reasons likely related only to

Cole

Cole

being 2, Lilly thinks I am hilarious. The other night, I used a jack-in-the-box to delight her. I cranked the handle and when the clown (or in this case, the sock monkey) popped out, I threw it up in the air and screamed. You can see how absolutely hilarious this is, can’t you? Well, maybe not, but Lilly certainly did. All 78 times that she had me do it. She belly-laughed each and every time, as Austin looked on in amazement. Apparently, when you’re 5, you aren’t quite as easily amused.

I Suppose You Also Still Leave Voice Messages
Speaking of grandkids, last Friday – the day we were at the baseball game – when I looked at my iPad upon arriving back home, I saw that I had not one, not two, not three, but a total of four missed Facetime calls from 5-year-old Mylee. It was dinnertime, and when I tried her back, no one answered. So, the next morning, which was Saturday, I Facetimed her once again. This time she answered. “Nana,” she said with great exasperation in her voice, “I tried Facetiming you yesterday and you didn’t answer.” I said, “I know, I saw that you called, but we were at a baseball game and didn’t get home until later.” During the course of our conversation, Mylee complained three or four more times that she had tried to Facetime me the day before. Finally, I said to her, “Mylee, listen to me. I don’t have an iPhone. I have an android phone and it doesn’t have Facetime. So I can only get my Facetime calls on my iPad. Since we were at the baseball game, I didn’t have my iPad and therefore didn’t get your call until we got home.” Stunned silence. “You don’t have an iPhone?” she said incredulously. My status fell in Mylee’s eyes that day. In fact, if it wasn’t for the fact that I let her play with Play Doh at my house and allow her to eat only the cream filling from Oreos, I’m not sure I could rebound.

What Are You Doing Next Friday?
As does nearly any place you go nowadays, Bill’s maxillofacial surgeon (in real-life terms, that’s the guy who yanked out two of Bill’s teeth a couple of weeks ago, inserted an implant, sent him home still reeling from anesthesia, and sent him flowers) asked him to fill out a survey. As incentive to do so, he was promised two free movie tickets. He did fill out the survey and received the two free tickets yesterday in the mail. Flowers and a movie? It sounds more like dating than dentistry!

Finding Nemo
Finding DoraThe other night while watching The Voice, I must have seen one commercial three or four times. The ad was for the fish sandwich being served by Culvers. According to the ad, the fish is flown in unbattered, and each restaurant batters the fish and fries it right at the restaurant. The commercial then showed a close-up of the sandwich, which was flaky and delicious-looking. The tartar sauce was thick and the lettuce looked crisp. By the third commercial, I was determined to try that sandwich. So yesterday we did just that. Bill was a bit perplexed that I would want a fish sandwich on a Wednesday, but once we got to Culvers, he ended up ordering the same thing. He’d seen the same commercials. Well, I will tell you the truth. While no fast food sandwich looks the same as they do in the advertisements, this sandwich was quite good. It was hot and tasted fresh. And the restaurant was packed so we weren’t the only ones who saw the ad. There was a line nearly out the door – all old people (which is how Bill and I describe anyone between the ages of 62 and 73 who aren’t us). Advertising works.

Who the Hell is Dora?
kaiya mylee hatsBear with me. One more grandkids story, this time starring Mylee AND Kaiya. Once again, we were talking on Facetime. I believe it might have been the same conversation where Mylee learned the bitter truth about my telephone. Anyway, I said to them, “Hey! Guess what movie is coming out in June?” They eagerly asked what movie it was. “Finding Dora, I said. They both looked totally and entirely puzzled. “Finding Dora?” they said. “What are you talking about?” I explained that it was a sequel to Finding Nemo. “Oh,” they said in unison. “You mean Finding DORY, not DORA.”

Work with me here, Girls.

Ciao.

Eating Old Scottsdale

Our winter home is in east Mesa, in the east valley of the ENORMOUSLY spread out metropolitan area of Phoenix. Our imaginary boundaries, however, are ridiculously limited – Gilbert Road to the west (because that’s the nearest Oregano’s Pizza), Dobson Road to the south (because that’s where my sister Bec lives), and Superstition Mountain to the east (because that’s where my brother Dave lives). To the north? Well, I walk over to the grocery store which is a block north of our house, but that’s about it.

I’m exaggerating, of course. But we really haven’t spent a lot of time exploring some of the interesting areas that the Valley of the Sun offers. Shame on us.

But thanks to a gift certificate from Dave and Jll that we received for Christmas, Bill and I actually ventured beyond our invisible boundaries to Scottsdale, where we went on a food tour of Old Town Scottsdale. Our children know us well. An art walk? Probably not. A guided tour of the historical areas of Scottsdale? Nope. Beer and wine tours? I don’t think so.

But a food tour? I am SO THERE. And Bill is by my side.

Finding food in Scottsdale is no problem. The population of Scottsdale is 226,000, and there are over 600 restaurants within the city boundaries. That’s supposedly second only to New York City in restaurants per capita. From the looks of it, a full quarter of those 600 restaurants are in the 10 square blocks or so that make up the Old Town area.

The area looks much like an old western town, frankly because that’s what it was. Sure,Kris and friend Old Town Scottsdale the saloons are now upscale restaurants and bars, and the old post office and dry goods stores are now shops featuring expensive Indian jewelry and contemporary clothing. But if you sort of squint, and use your imagination, you can almost see Roy Rogers and Dale Evans coming toward you riding Trigger and Buttermilk. (Yes, it’s true; I watched many a Roy Rogers television episode at Grammie’s house on Saturday mornings.) You have to look, however, past the tourists wearing $300 sunglasses and $100 jeans from Ambercrombie & Fitch.

margaritaThe tour, which was through Arizona Food Tours took us to several restaurants where we sampled delicious (and contemporary) Mexican food from The Mission and pizza from Grimaldi’s Pizzeria. At The Mission, I splurged and bought what they called the primorita – simply agave nectar, locally-made tequila, and freshly-squeezed lime juice. It was yum. Bill had one too. Later, as we made our way to Grimaldi’s, he told me, “That was really good. I didn’t know I liked margaritas.” Seventy-three is not too old to learn new things, especially when it comes to tequila.

We learned that the Grimaldi’s in Old Town Scottsdale was the first outside of the original Grimaldi’s underneath the Brooklyn Bridge in NYC. According to our guide Chrystal, the owner’s son attended ASU and, as so many ASU grads do, decided to make his home permanently in Arizona. His idea? Open up the first non-NYC Grimaldi’s. He followed his father’s recipe to a T, but something was amiss. It didn’t taste the same. When he made a visit back home, his father told him the reason. It was simple, really. It’s the water. So he brought back several 5-gallon containers of NYC water and gave it a try. Voila! The pizzas were the same.

He worked with chemists at ASU and apparently has been able to duplicate NYC’s water, which he uses in the Grimaldi’s Pizzerias here in the Phoenix area. I have tasted the pizzas from the original Grimaldi’s, but I would be unable to confirm or deny. What I can tell you, however, is that the pizza tasted very good.

Outrageous Olive Oil sign (2)The highlight of MY day was a stop at a locally-owned olive oil store called Outrageous Olive Oils. From olive oil expert Heather, we learned the importance of making sure your olive oil is truly, truly, truly cold-pressed and extra virgin. Apparently the ones that promise they are just that are very often big fat liars. The olive oils, of which we tasted very many, were delicious. Even more surprising, at least to Bill, was how sweet and

Owner Dena Armstrong and olive oil and the store tour guide know their olive oils and balsamic vinegars!

Owner Dena Armstrong and olive oil and the store tour guide know their olive oils and balsamic vinegars!

flavorful were the balsamic vinegars. Bill maintains that he is allergic to vinegar. It’s true that vinegar often makes his throat constrict. Because of this, he was surprised at how sweet and delicious the balsamic vinegars were on his palate. He found one that was flavored with dark chocolate (the man can sniff out chocolate anywhere), and can’t wait to try it drizzled on ice cream.

Chocolate balsamic vinegar and tequila. It was a good day for Bill.

It was, in fact, a good day for both of us. The weather was perfect. The food was delicious. We palled up with a couple from Charlotte, NC, who forgave us for a wee bit of gentle gloating about our Super Bowl win, and we finished up our outing with freshly baked cookies. My favorite was a chocolate cookie flavored with cayenne and cinnamon. Who knew?

I hope this is the first of many more experiences outside our boundaries.

Surprise. I’m Home. What’s For Dinner?

Nobody can tell a story like the Gospel writer Luke.

Well, to tell the truth, it really was Jesus who was the good story teller. St. Luke only repeated the story like someone stealing their buddy’s good joke. To be fair to Luke, however, he does attribute the story to Jesus, so really it’s all good.

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My much-loved nephew BJ

I’m talking about the story of the prodigal son – the gospel this past weekend. I can’t hear that story without thinking about Jen’s son BJ. Don’t get me wrong. BJ was NOT a prodigal son; but he hates – or at least used to hate – that story. He thought the older son got screwed and it pissed him off royally.

I didn’t like that story very much myself for a long time, up until I had my own son. And then I learned that no matter what had happened, if he and I had fallen apart, I would welcome him home with open arms if he came back to me. Maybe the fact that I only had one child for much of my life made that simpler. But I don’t think so.

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My much-loved granddaughter Adelaide

It’s like the question kids often ask their parents and grandparents – which one of us do you love the most. (We never asked that question in our family because we all knew it was Dave!) But seriously, the answer to that question is usually that the parents and grandparents love all of their children and grandchildren. But different children have different needs at different times. Some children are more loving; others tend to be more standoffish. Sometimes one of our kids or grandkids is going through a particularly tough time and needs our attention a bit more. Like the time that Addie – who will be 13 in a couple of weeks, and how on earth did THAT happen – stopped by our house unexpectedly. She was a bit quiet and I asked if something was wrong. Yes, she admitted. Her mother was being TOTALLY UNFAIR. Now that’s an unusual thing for an adolescent girl to think about her mother, isn’t it? She and I had a good long talk and I hope that I sent her off feeling a bit better.

The point of the parable of the prodigal son, of course, is that God loves us all, even when we screw up. No matter how far away from him our life goes, when we’re ready to come back to God, he will accept us with open arms and no questions asked.

And what about those of us who never stop believing in God’s love? Are we getting screwed like BJ believed was happening to the older brother in the parable? I guess I don’t think so. The younger brother blew it – thought he could live without his father.  I know there have been many times in my life where, while I never stopped believing in God, I did go adrift. For that matter, it still happens. I begin to think I can go it alone. I forget that without God’s help, I’m nothing. But I know that God forgives me, not just once, but over and over and over again.

Just like the father forgave the son who made such a big mistake, while never loving his older son any less.

It’s what we parents and grandparents do too.

Goodbye M’ Lord and M’ Lady

0922_FL-downton-abbey_2000x1125-1940x1091Last night I sat in front of the television for nearly two hours watching the final episode of Downton Abbey. It’s true. I will no longer be able to watch Lord Grantham as he struggles to figure out how to navigate the 20th Century, which carries with it things like hair dryers and women having lives beyond their families and being stuffed and tied into corsets. Lady Grantham’s tilted head and unending smile will no longer be there to take the edge off my day. The Crawley sisters’ bickering won’t be reminding me that sibling rivalries aren’t just a thing of the 21st Century. And Lady Violet. Oh, how I will miss Lady Violet.

Ever since the very first time I heard those bells tingle in the show’s opening sequence six years ago, my life was changed in a small way. And I’m not sure why. It was like entering into a dream.

I never yearned to be one of the Crawleys. I would have gotten lost in that gigantic home. Heavens knows I can’t even imagine having to wear formal wear EVERY SINGLE NIGHT to dinner. Life in the late 19th and early 20th Century was no piece of cake, even for families like the one in Downton.

Still, I enjoyed watching the show. There will be a hole in my Sunday nights that won’t be easily filled. Between the ending of football season and the series finale of Downton Abbey, I might have to take up embroidery.

It is no exaggeration to say that I cried throughout the entire episode last night. Seriously, from the beginning until the end. The fact that I was having to say goodbye to the Crawleys was no small part of the reason I cried. But Julian Fellowes (the series’ creator and writer) simply handed me a finale that was so flipping satisfying in every way.

I recognize, of course, that real life doesn’t always wrap up so conveniently and satisfactorily in 90 minutes as did the life in that little town in York. But I think that is why I found the show so incredibly addicting. It was nice to have drama and comedy and angst and family rivalries for six weeks in the middle of winter wrapped in such a beautiful package.

Because Downton Abbey was nothing if not beautiful. The clothes were lovely. The house was unimaginably beautiful. The manners, the British accents, the scenery – all made for astoundingly beautiful visuals.

For the most part, the characters were kind and smart. In the first season, I kept waiting for the wealthy Crawley family to be evil and greedy. That’s Hollywood’s typical depiction of the rich and powerful.  But no; instead, they were serious about trying to make a good life for the people for whom Lord Grantham was responsible. Not just his staff, but the people of the village.

The staff downstairs had their own interesting characters, story lines, saints and devils. I enjoyed getting a glimpse each week into what went on in the way of providing service for a family in a house the size of a small village. It was fun to root for the good guys and boo for the bad guys.

At the end of the day, I have enjoyed watching this beautiful program for the past six seasons, and am sad to say goodbye. But I feel like I’m leaving Downton and all the people there in good hands.

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Saturday Smile: I Feel Like Dancing, Yeah

Two things…

First. Von Miller. Dancing With the Stars. Bliss. That’s all I’ll say about that.

Second. I got my hair cut this week. That in and of itself makes me happy. But during the course of my haircut, my stylist Erika and I began talking about food, as we often do. We were discussing our extreme fondness for Mexican food in general, and tacos in particular. Addiction is how Erika described her relationship with tacos. And she told me something she saw on Facebook that made me laugh.

Taco Fact #47
Tacos are healthier than methamphetamine. 

Good to know. It’s something anyway.

I’ll leave you with this.

Have a great weekend.

Thursday Thoughts

Tech-less Thursdays
You might recall that as part of my Lenten fasting, I am refraining from most technology each Thursday. Here’s what I used as my criteria for what I’m not using: If I was going to a cabin in the woods with no television, no wifi, no internet, but with a kitchen, I would bring along books, recipes, and my crocheting (along with my project patterns). So, I am allowing myself to use my iPad as my book (since all of my reading these days is done via ebooks), and for my existing crochet patterns and recipes that are on Pinterest. I don’t use my iPad for anything else, such as email, Facebook (except to post my blog in the morning), or Pinterest (except to access existing recipes or crochet patterns). I’ve tried to limit my use of my cell phone, but frankly haven’t been great about that. So here’s what I’ve discovered: the things I miss most are being able to walk over to my computer to check activity on my blog or to look at Facebook (during Lent, I turn off my computer once I’ve posted my blog in the morning), and television. Oh, television. I would have told you a month ago that not watching television one day a week would be a piece of cake. It really isn’t. I guess I just enjoy sitting in the evenings and watching TV with Bill. Instead, I go into the bedroom and crochet or read, and listen to the sound of faint music because Bill watches American Idol. All-in-all, I have discovered that it has been harder than I suspected it would.

Spring Gardening
Not surprisingly, the gardening schedule is different here in AZ than it is in Denver, and most other parts of the country. While non-Arizonans dutifully plant their vegetable seeds and small plants in the spring and harvest in the summer and fall, that schedule doesn’t work in the desert. Remember, in July, when the green tomatoes on my plants in Denver are just beginning to turn red, it is 110 degrees during the day at our AZ home, and only getting down to the upper 80s or low 90s at night. Only the hardiest plants, i.e. cacti and succulents, can survive the brutal heat. So much of the vegetable planting is done in late fall and early winter, and harvesting is completed by May. For the most part, I am unable to garden very much here, as we only visit for a short time in the fall and tomatoes don’t have time to grow, sprout fruit, and ripen in the time we are here in the winter. But I do plant some things. This year I planted herbs in pots (parsley, thyme, and basil). When we first purchased our house here in 2010, Jen and I put in a little teeny tiny rosemary plant that we got at the grocery store in a 2-in pot. We put that in the ground as we knew it was able to withstand the weather conditions. Here is what it looks like today…..

Rosemary 2016

And here is a photo of my beautiful romaine lettuce in a pot, after several cuttings, I might add……

Lettuce

…and All I Got Was This Crappy T-Shirt
Bill had pretty significant dental surgery on Friday. It required general anesthesia. Everything went fine, and except for the fact that he can’t chew on the right side of his mouth for four months (whaaaaat?), he is recovering nicely. We had seriously not been home for 15 minutes when our doorbell rang. “Who’s that?” Bill asks, as he always asks when the doorbell rings as though I am psychic or have x-ray vision and can see through the door. I’ll give him a break this time because he was only an hour out of general anesthesia. Anyway, it was someone delivering flowers. It being way past Valentine’s Day and way before my birthday, I couldn’t imagine why Bill was sending me flowers. Well, the flowers weren’t for me at all. They were for Bill from his dentist and his oral surgeon. Get well soon, the card said. A very nice thought, though I’m fully aware that a $50 expenditure on flowers is only a pittance of the thousands of dollars they will receive from the dental work. Still……

Bill's flowers

This Wine Tastes Like Cardboard
Bill and I have, well, let’s call it simple taste in wine. Quite frankly, we’re cheapskates. But the other day I was at our big, nice liquor store and decided to get a bottle of wine to share that evening with Bec, who was coming for dinner. I was going all out and gave myself permission to spend upwards to $15 on a bottle of wine. CRAZY! Anyway, I went to the area where they have their nicest wines and began perusing the bottom shelf where the prices are more affordable. I ended up buying a bottle of an Argentine Malbec that was only $9.99. I was willing to pay more, but they description amused me……

wine description

Inky and concentrated with robust flavors of black fruit, cigar box, and chocolate. Cigar box? Really? The dinner never happened and so the wine has yet to be opened. Until then, I will just sniff Bill’s cigar boxes.

Ciao.

Dream a Little Dream

I woke up last night, as I occasionally do, from a nightmare. My heart was pounding, and so that I didn’t fall right back to sleep and continue the dream, I got up and read for a bit. To tell you the truth, I can’t even tell you what the nightmare was about. Once I was wide awake, the whole scenario left me.

That often happens to me when it comes to dreaming. I know that we all dream all night, every night. So they say. I rarely remember my dreams. Sometimes, when the dream has been particularly interesting or funny, I will try to imprint it on my mind so that I can tell Bill the next day. Even then, I almost never can recall the dream.

Dreams are funny things, I think. So often I will dream about someone to whom I haven’t given a conscious thought in a very long time. Somewhere lurking deep in the recesses of my mind, however, that person must be present. Where on earth did that come from I will wonder.

Bill has always been a great dreamer. In more ways than one, of course, but in this case I’m talking about the dreams he has at night. Or, more to the point, mostly in the early morning hours. Like me, he isn’t aware of any dreams he has during the night. But he has some doozies in the morning just prior to awakening. Parkinson’s disease, of course, can cause vivid dreams. That might be part of the reason for Bill’s funny dreams. But I will tell you that he has had vivid dreams as long as we’ve been married. We have had many laughs as he’s told me about his most recent dream. Sometimes he talks out loud while dreaming. One night, he was suddenly giving a speech. Out loud. Ladies and Gentleman, my name is Bill McLain. It took me a moment to realize he was dreaming. I, of course, already knew his name.

And his dreams often involve trains. He is on a train. There is a train passing by him. He is picking someone up at a train station. I wonder what Freud would say about the trains. Always, the trains….

As for me, I don’t dream about trains. I dream about houses. Well, not all houses. I dream about the house in which I grew up in Columbus. It doesn’t matter what period of my life I’m dreaming about. It doesn’t matter who is in my dream. It apparently doesn’t matter that I have lived in my current house in Denver for a much longer period of time than I lived in the house in Columbus. If in a dream I am in a house, I am in my childhood house.

And, as I mentioned above, I still have nightmares. Not often, but probably a couple a month. Perhaps that is because I read in bed before I go to sleep, and what I often read are murder mysteries. Even though the nightmares don’t directly relate to what I’m reading, I’m sure it stirs up fears in my mind.

Miss Dagny, NOT walking in her sleep.

Miss Dagny, NOT walking in her sleep.

When I was a little girl, I also walked in my sleep. It was generally shortly after I went to sleep, but I never had a recollection of the experience the next day. My sister Bec and I had some sort of code phrase that indicated whether I was really awake or simply walking in my sleep. I can’t quite recollect what the phrase was. Nor do I know why we were so confident that I wouldn’t use the code phrase if I was asleep.

One of my granddaughters – Dagny – also walks in her sleep. Her parents have found her in odd places in the middle of the night. Once in the toy chest as I recall.

Court used to have nightmares when he was a kid. When he was very small – around 4court years old – he had a recurring nightmare that there were squirrels on the floor by his bed that were trying to make their way up to bite him. Scary, huh?

And speaking of recurring, I used to frequently have the dream people often have where I was attending college at the University of Colorado and when I got to my English class, I realized that I hadn’t attended a class in months and was unprepared for the test that we were taking that day. At least I had clothes on!

I’m rambling today about dreams, but only because it still amazes me that at age 62, I have nightmares.

Sleep well.