Ms – ed the Point

Women have worked towards equality with men for centuries. There is obviously still a ways to go. But it’s difficult for young women of today to imagine what it was like in, say, the 1950s and early 60s. I’m not saying women lived like slaves, but it really was hard for women to compete with men for jobs and pay, for example. And that was only one aspect of life where women were considered less important than men. Even those women who stayed at home and took care of their family were not really supported for their efforts.

I was born in 1953, and graduated from high school in 1972. I obviously saw a lot of serious challenges and social changes including the Civil Right Movement and the Women’s Movement. While I wasn’t marching in rallies or burning my bra, I was right there in spirit with the women who were on the front lines so that I would be fairly treated when I was out in the real world looking for a job.

One of the inequities that women came up against was the fact that their names were given different prefixes depending on their marital status. We were Miss if we were unmarried and Mrs. if we had walked down the aisle and said I do. On the other hand, men were Mr. no matter their marital status. What did this mean in practical terms? It meant that while a Mr. was a Mr. was a Mr., a woman’s title told everyone something that was probably none of their business, at least not when it came to getting selected for a job.

In the early 60s, a woman named Sheila Michaels attempted to popularize the term Ms. for all women. Her fight went on for years, until it started getting some feet in the early 1970s. Gloria Steinem perhaps made the term permanent with her new magazine which she called  Ms. Magazine, first published in 1972.

For my part, I remember thinking I would NEVER go by that silly name. Ms. Nor would I be called a womyn which was something else that was proposed and thankfully never caught on.

By the way, while researching this topic, I learned that the term Ms. as a title for women was first proposed in 1901 by another magazine —  The Republican of Springfield, MA. Its purpose at that time was to prevent embarrassment for probably mostly men who were unsure of a woman’s marital status and didn’t know how to address her.

Anyway, over the years the term Ms. became commonplace, especially as more and more women didn’t take their husbands’ names upon marriage. In another aside, when I first married in 1977, in order to keep my maiden name after marriage, I would have had to have it legally changed BACK to that name. Times have changed markedly in that regard.

I’m old and pretty set in my ways, but this all came back to me when I saw a recent photo on Facebook. My niece Brooke is an elementary school teacher. She posted a photo that the school took of her and her fellow teachers, with their names. What I noticed is that if the teacher was married, they were referred to as Mrs. If they were not married, they were referred to as Ms.

And this thought occurred to me: Did changing Miss/Mrs. to Ms. ever really make a difference?

One thought on “Ms – ed the Point

  1. I like being called Ms. and am glad to have the option. I feel like having to go back to Miss after divorce would have felt sad.

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