To Thee I Wed

Twenty-five years ago today, Bill and I were married. Second weddings are not like first weddings — in many respects. Our wedding was small, mostly family and a few friends. We were married at St. Vincent Catholic Church, presided over by Fr. Quang, at that time a fairly new priest, and now a monsignor. (I’m pretty sure Bill and I had something to do with that.) Court was just a kid of 12, but I chose him to walk me down the aisle. In all respects, our wedding was what I’d hoped for…..

June 20, 1992. The whole wedding party comprises the people you read about in my blog so often. Just younger.

I’m not going to get all gushy and say that I married my best friend, and it’s like we were married yesterday, and I would do it all again. All of those things are true, but they dismiss the reality that marriage is HARD. I won’t lie and tell you that we never had a fight in 25 years, or that we never went to bed angry. I’m pretty sure I went to bed angry about two weeks ago.

But since we were both divorced, we knew — beyond a shadow of a doubt — that we weren’t going to do that again. So even if we took the risk of going to bed angry (and don’t misunderstand; I don’t recommend that), we always managed to straighten things out in the end. It used to take longer because we took things more personally, I guess. Now we are both old enough to recognize that while there are a lot of things about which we disagree, life is short and you’d better pick your battles. So we do.

At the end of the day, the reality is I married a really good man. I’ve done a lot of stupid things in my life, but when it came to picking out the man with whom I would spend the majority of my life, I done good.

So, happy anniversary to my good husband. What’s say we try for 25 more years!

6 thoughts on “To Thee I Wed

  1. Happy anniversary. We were coworkers at CHFA when you took the plunge. Good people attract good people! Best wishes- Colleen Schwarz

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