A Little Capital

imageMy daughter-in-law Jll was the first to give me a heads-up about Montpelier following their first visit to Heather and Lauren’s house. It’s very pretty but surprisingly small, she told us.

And so it is. In fact their motto is “A little capital goes a long way.” I looked it up. It’s the smallest state capital in the United States. Fewer than 8,000 permanent residents according to the 2010 Census. My guess is it’s also one of the prettiest.

From what I can see, New England in its entirety is beautiful. It also has the nicest people you would ever care to meet. Our first experience with this was shortly after we disembarked our plane in Manchester, New Hampshire, after a long day of travel last Thursday. Bill had retrieved our luggage. We were walking through the airport, looking every which way but forward. Suddenly I saw that it was too late to stop Bill from running into an airport employee walking towards us. The woman quickly veered out of danger. Instead of being cranky as, say, I would have been, she laughed and told us not to worry because she dodges folks all day long. Altogether nice people, those New Englanders. Even the other night when Joseph unintentionally hit his car door on the car parked in the next spot at Dairy Creme, the driver merely scowled a bit and tossed off a sarcastic “thanks a lot” instead of pulling out a concealed weapon as could possibly have happened in the Wild, Wild West of Colorado!

Montpelier isn’t just a small town; it’s a one-of-a-kind small town. What do I mean? Well, for example, in addition to it being the smallest state capital, it also has the unique honor of being the only state capital in the U.S. without a McDonalds. Without any chains, in fact, save one ubiquitous Subway. Even Montpelier couldn’t escape a Subway.

People fly flags; they sit on their front porches and greet passers-by; they grow magnificent gardens and share their harvest with others; they know their neighbors’ names and the names of their children; they let others go ahead of them in line; the sound of farm programs comes from car radios. Sunday night I was walking with Micah as he rode his trike down the sidewalk near his house. A police car drove by slowly, then came to a stop. Oh oh, I thought. Was I going to get busted because I was carrying a gin and tonic? But no. The cop reached into a folder and pulled out a Montpelier Police Officer sticker and came over to hand it to Micah, who was understandably thrilled. In other words, they are Small Town America at its finest.

Sunday night we went to the park right behind Heather and Lauren’s house because they were hosting a concert. It was the night of Micah’s birthday celebration, and Micah does love him some music. He sat quietly, absolutely enthralled with the band, tapping his hand in absolute perfect time with the music. Perhaps predictably, the music was provided by the Big Bang Bongo Brass Band, a weirdly pleasant combination of bongo drums and trombones (and other brass instruments). Micah — being a percussion fellow himself — asked to join the people dancing just in front of the band. Despite being totally outside of her comfort zone, Heather took him up front to dance. There was Micah hobnobbing with others such as the senior citizen wearing the tie-dyed t-shirt bearing the Bernie For President logo. (Not surpringly, Bernie For President signs are everywhere. This is, after all, Bernie country.) See what I mean? Mayberry with a hippie twist. Altogether delightful.

Joseph pretends he's a Cabot cow.

Joseph pretends he’s a Cabot cow.

Yesterday afternoon Bill and I took Joseph with us to tour the Cabot cheese factory. The tour was interesting and the samples were, of course, extraordinary. But the best part was lunch afterwards. Bill asked the Cabot people for a recommendation of a place for lunch. Sarah’s Diner, behind the hardware store, the young woman told him. We walked to the hardware store, expecting to see a diner sitting behind it. Nope. You had to actually walk through an old fashioned, small town hardware store, and the tiny diner was in the back. Two tables and a four-stooled counter. Four or five things on the menu. The owner, Sarah, was all by herself. She took orders and then went behind the counter to cook your food. I was looking around for Aunt Bea.

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If it wasn’t for the absurdly long and cold winters and the fact that I can’t get cell or data service for the life of me (although the I must remind myself I have T-mobile and I think they have something like three cell towers in the entire United States), I would find it a pleasant place to live. I still don’t think I would wear a Bernie For President shirt, however, tie-dyed or not.

I could grow used to the maple creemies, though.

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Birthdays and Haircuts

Micah’s birthday was yesterday, and he turned 3.

We celebrated with his extended family on Sunday night, including parents, his brother, all but one of his grandparents, a dear family friend, and his Aunt Andra and Uncle Emmett. Everyone got the memo that Micah likes trucks and other vehicles, because his presents included a bulldozer, a fire engine, and a cement mixer (or, as Micah calls it, a mix mixer).

Yesterday, however, the emphasis was on the boys getting their first-ever haircut from a for-real barber (complete with a revolving barber pole). Up until then, all haircuts had come from their mama, who understandably had trouble cutting off very many of their curls.

I was tickled by the fact that 6-year-old Joseph had a clear idea about what kind of hair cut he wanted. Apparently he had seen it on one of the high school aged camp counselors this summer. Buzzed short on the sides and left long on the top. Mama Lauren was on board; Mom Heather could barely stand to watch them cut off Joseph’s curls.

Here is what the boys looked like before they took their seat in the barber chair…..

 

Joseph before haircut

Joseph before haircut

 

Micah before haircut

Micah before haircut

At first, Joseph wasn’t too sure about the clippers. When he realized it didn’t hurt, he relaxed and let the barber have his way. It didn’t take too long before little Joseph looked like a grown-up boy…..

Joseph and his barber, Todd.

Joseph and his barber, Todd.

For his part, Micah didn’t really care what his haircut looked like, he just knew he wanted to be sitting in the chair getting appropriate attention. After all, it was his birthday. He was very good and not wiggly enough to cause the barber much angst. His haircut wasn’t as great a change as was Joseph’s….

 

Micah has the wet-head look while he gets his curls trimmed.

Micah has the wet-head look while he gets his curls trimmed.

 

 

imagePapa got his hair cut as well, but he didn’t look cute enough to warrant a photo.

Afterwards we went out for burgers, cheesesteaks, fish-and-chips, and pizza to celebrate before going home to rest. Let me just tell you I have never before seen pizza dunked into catsup, but who am I to judge? It seemed delicious judging from the fact that they ate the entire pizza. When there was only one little corner of a piece left, Joseph assured me there was just that very same amount of space left in his tummy. Thank goodness. It seemed to fit. And, we also had pizza for dinner last night. Joseph ate four pieces of sausage and pepperoni. A McLain, for sure.

Call Me Ishmael

When Bill and I first began thinking about our summer trip to Vermont, we thought a trip to Montreal — only a couple of hours from Montpelier — would be fun. We discovered, however, that our passports had expired. Well, this led to that which somehow didn’t lead to us sending in our passport applications in enough time to get our passports back before we left.

Oh, oh. New plan. Moules e frites atimage an outdoor cafe in Montreal some other time.

Friday we got a text message from Heather asking if we would be interested in a whale watching tour out of a beach near Portsmouth, New Hampshire. Now THAT sounded like some kind of fun.

So Saturday morning we all arose at 4:15 in order to arrive in time for an 8:30 sailing of a whale watching boat. Do you have any idea just how lively and happy 3-year-old and 6-year-old boys are at 4:15 a.m.? Very chipper.

And so we all were after some coffee and a Dunkin’ Donut. Or two.

It was the first such tour for any of us, and we were not disappointed. The tour boat was not large but we had plenty of comfortable space up on the top deck. I am not ashamed to admit that I had some serious concerns about a very busy 3-year-old boy on a four-hour whale tour. My concerns were unnecessary, as both boys were engaged and happy to be part of the whale watching team. For our parts, we hung on very tightly to 3-year-old Micah who — I’m happy to report — did not even come close to going overboard.

We motored for quite some time — long enough to generate concerns that maybe our whale watching would be a bust — before the crew told us that there were dolphins up ahead. I expected perhap a few dolphins to provide meagre entertainment. However, what we got was an amazing dolphin experience featuring somewhere in the neighborhood of 200 dolphins. Seeing dolphins at all is not a given. In fact, the tour guide (a somewhat misleading description since she clearly was an educated biologist) said this was only the third or fourth time this summer that she had seen dolphins at all. She went on to say that the average pod size (pods are the term for groups of dolphins) is 40, and there were literally hundreds. They swam and jumped and surfed in the wake left by the boat. They entertained us for probably 45 minutes before the crew said we would continue on in our search for whales. It was awesome, and had we only seen the dolphins, I would have been content.

However, we saw much more than merely dolphins. We saw two separate humpback whales who, suffice it to say, were nothing short of magnificent. They blew water through their blowholes. They entertained us by swimming a bit and then coming to the surface to make sure we knew they were still there. After a minute or so, we would see them do a deep dive in which their tails would be the last thing we would see go into the water, indicating they were going for a deep dive and we wouldn’t see them for a minute or two until they would come up for air. And they would come up very far away from where they went under. I’m making it sound like a choreographed show like you might see at Sea World, but it was all natural and entirely fascinating and entertaining. We also saw a fin whale and a Minke whale, two varieties I had never heard of. But in my book, the humpbacks were the stars of the show.

The two boys were as fascinated as their parents and grandparents, and couldn’t have been better behaved. They did take time out for a nap…….

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imageAfterwards we went into Portsmouth and had lunch at a place called the Beach Plum, which served a variety of food, including the most amazing lobster rolls I have ever tasted. The lobster came out of the nearby waters, and you could taste the freshness….

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Our day of whale watching is one I won’t soon forget. And I was happy to share it with our family…..

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Saturday Smile: Hugs and Kisses from Vermont

After a long day of travel on Thursday, Bill and I arrived safe and sound at the home of Heather and Lauren about 9 o’clock at night Vermont time. We got held up by a serious storm in Orlando which prevented us from departing on time. Now that’s what I call thunder and lightning! The boys were in bed, but we saw them bright and early Friday morning. Lots of smiles and hugs. Joseph had his last day of camp, so Papa and I spent the day with Micah, who turns 3 on Monday. He’s a very busy boy. We visited a bakery, a hardware store, and a market. We pushed lots of trucks, rode lots of vehicles, and used lots of imagination. One of us tired himself out. image   Joseph and his class had a little ceremony to celebrate the end of camp. It was fun to have the rare experience of attending something like that with Vermont grandchildren. image

Joseph showing off his star!

Joseph showing off his star!

Have a great weekend.

Friday Book Whimsy: The Hurricane Sisters

searchI have always enjoyed novels by Dorothea Benton Frank, whose book settings are always somewhere in the Low Country of South Carolina. Her characters are always strong, if somewhat quirky, women, and the island settings always become at least a character of sorts. I always leave the story wishing I lived on an island off the coast of South Carolina, where I could just pop over the bridge and be in Savannah or Charleston.

However, The Hurricane Sisters fell significantly short of being a novel worth reading. Its only redeeming characteristic was that the settings were Charleston and the family home on Sullivans Island. Frank’s description of life on Sullivans Island made me want to pack up and move there. I could almost hear the ocean waves.

The storyline takes on the difficult subject of domestic violence. I would have preferred that the author write a nonfiction account of a serious problem that is apparently becoming more and more common in South Carolina. Addressing the subject in a weak fictional story almost seemed silly.

Frank presents three generations of Pringle women – Maisie, the matriarch; Liz, her daughter; and Ashley, Liz’s daughter whose desire is to make a career out of her talent for painting. Maisie is the strong-willed character always present in Frank’s novels, and really the only character who rang true at all. Liz is caught in a marriage that has lost its zing, and she compensates by putting all her efforts and emotions into her job at a nonprofit that works with victims of domestic violence, while at the same time ignoring her husband’s philandering. Ashley lives in the family home on Sullivans Island, and couldn’t possibly be a sillier character. Though apparently a smart and gifted artist, she spends the entire book mooning after a handsome state senator who is headed for greater things (the White House) despite the fact that he is clearly a perpetrator of domestic abuse.

It is simply laughable that Liz, who is so committed to fighting domestic violence simply dismisses Ashley’s roommate Mary Ellen’s attempt to convince her that the senator is abusive. Simply wouldn’t happen.

So many of Frank’s earlier novels are so much better. If you are interested in reading books with beautiful settings and interesting characters, pick one of her earlier novels such as Sullivan’s Island or Plantation.

Buy The Hurricane Sisters from Amazon here.

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Thursday Thoughts: The Wednesday Edition

Is it Thursday?
You have probably picked up by now that I publish something I cleverly call Thursday Thoughts each Thursday. Random thoughts about random things. You probably also realize that today is not Thursday. Why am I publishing my thoughts today instead of tomorrow? And more important, why do I feel compelled to call it Thursday Thoughts even though it isn’t Thursday? There is no good answer to the latter question, except for the fact that I am in love with the alliteration of the title. I could have called this post Wednesday Wonderings or Miscellaneous Midweek Minutia. But I didn’t. As far as the first question, I will tell you now not to expect a posting on Thursday, thoughts or otherwise. The reason for this is that Bill and I will be traveling to Vermont on Thursday. Our travels will take us all day long, as our plane leaves DIA at 6:40 a.m. MDT and arrives Manchester, New Hampshire at 4:55 p.m. EDT. We will then get in our rental car and drive another two hours to Montpelier, Vermont, where our family resides. If all goes well, I will be kissing and hugging our two grandboys by 8 o’clock Thursday evening. Pray for us!

Can I Return This?
Yesterday morning I went to Target just after they opened at 8 a.m. I bought a few things in preparation for a day with grandkids. Since the store had just opened, there was only one checkout stand available. The clerk, who appeared to be new, cheerfully checked me out, but when it came time to pay, the credit card machine was confused and wouldn’t work. She called for help, and the problem was quickly resolved. When the clerk told me the amount due, it struck me as kind of high, but I got distracted by the credit card machine problem, and paid the amount she said. When I got to my car, however, I looked at my receipt and noticed she had charged me twice for my toilet paper. Being Target, however, when I went back into the store and headed directly to the customer service station, they quickly rectified the problem without question. Two things struck me: First, Target is amazing at how quickly they handle returns, and handle them without question. There is no way she could know that I hadn’t simply put one of the packages of toilet tissue into my car. I love that. Second, I am horrible about paying attention to what I pay for things, particularly groceries when I go through self-check. I wonder how many times I have paid twice for something or paid the wrong price? I’ll bet many, many times.

Grand Opening
At long last, Bill has finished the playhouse. Well, except for a few finishing touches. So today, since we had all of our Denver grandkids visiting, we held the grand opening. The opening included a ribbon cutting ceremony (well, it was actually yarn, but with three pairs of scissors doing the cutting), a speech by papa about how much he hopes the grandkids will enjoy playing in the house he built for them, and some treats, including regular pretzels, peanut butter filled pretzels, and sliced peaches, which Maggie Faith and Kaiya prepared. All in all, it was a grand ceremony. And the kids spent the entire day playing either inside of the playhouse or in the sandbox underneath the playhouse. Even Cole got involved in the festivities. He especially likes using sand as confetti. And pretzels.

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This photo looks a bit creepy what with the blurry heads peeking out of the windows; kind of like a horror movie complete with ghosts. In reality it was Alastair, Kaiya, Mylee, and Magnolia peeking out, with Dagny ready to go down the slide.

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By the Way….
If I should miss a day or two of posting, don’t panic and think I’m back in the hospital. I am simply enjoying our trip to Vermont. My plan is to continue posting, but one never knows….

Ciao.

The Handwriting is On the Wall

Well, another day has passed and I didn’t use Algebra once.                                                      – 60-70 percent of the people all over the world on any given day of the week

Various examples of this saying, of course, can be found on Pinterest, Facebook, Twitter, and other various and sundry forms of social media. But my-oh-my, isn’t it true? Unless you’re an engineer. So a note to my niece Jessie:  I DON’T WANT TO HEAR A WORD FROM YOU MS. ENGINEER! Feel free to use terms such as quadratic equations, coefficient, and variables with all your engineering friends. To me, pi is something you eat with ice cream. And, yes, I know that pi is a geometric term, but I’m using hyperbole to make a point – something writers do!

Frankly, it’s a good thing that I can go through my life without anything more than basic math, because, well, shall we say, I didn’t excel at algebra. Or geometry. Or 6th grade math. Somehow I got through college earning a Bachelor of Science degree without having to take a single math class.

I started thinking about my basic lack of need for advanced mathematics or other things I learned in school at Dagny’s birthday party. Before tearing open each gift, she carefully read the card that was attached. I noticed that she had a bit of trouble if the writing was cursive as opposed to printing. Her mother said reading cursive writing is a bit of a challenge for all of their kids.  That’s because they simply have little need to read or write cursive in these modern times. On the other hand, they all can keyboard with ease.

imagesI’ll bet you no longer see those cards with all of the letters in the alphabet written beautifully in cursive hanging in elementary classrooms. Someone tell me if this is true.

Baby boomers were taught cursive beginning probably in second grade or so. Remember trying to copy those beautifully written letters from the cards hanging above the blackboard? Now kids probably don’t even know what a blackboard is! My handwriting – despite all of my efforts – was never very pretty. And as I aged, my handwriting got even worse. Now, thanks at least in part to my arthritic thumbs, I rarely write anything by hand. My signature is nearly unreadable.

There are folks fighting to have cursive taught in school. There is evidence, for example, that kids retain what they are taught better if they write it out in cursive. I merely wonder how they will be able to read what Grandmother wrote in the genealogy section of the family Bible years from now.

I don’t want to be one of those people stuck in the 20th Century. I recognize that it is likely much more important that kids learn mathematics, keyboarding and computer programming as the world becomes more dependent on technology. After all, 5-year-old Mylee is my technological mentor. She understands how to play Minecraft, something I couldn’t possibly learn.

Still, I miss the days when people wrote like this…..

My Aunt Leona had the most beautiful handwriting until the day she died in her 90s. Perhaps it is unnecessary to tell you she was an elementary school teacher.

My Aunt Leona had the most beautiful handwriting until the day she died in her 90s. Perhaps it is unnecessary to tell you she was an elementary school teacher.

Well, I will continue to look for ways to use my elementary, junior high, and high school skills in my everyday life. I’m pretty good at cutting a cake or pie into the necessary number of servings for my grandkids.

 

Tax Collectors and Other Scumbags

I’ve mentioned before that the prayer book I take to Mass with me always includes stories about saints. Generally there is a theme around the saints they choose to feature. This month the theme is saints who didn’t really want to be saints. The saints featured during the past week included St. Matthew, the apostle, Gospel writer, and former tax collector.

A few years ago, Bill and I were audited by the IRS. It was from the year that I spent a month in the hospital. As you can imagine, our medical bills that particular year were extremely high, and our tax return reflected this. Since it was so unusual for us to have such high medical payments, it shouldn’t have come as a surprise to us that we were audited. Eventually the IRS dropped the audit and we weren’t liable for any extra taxes, much to our relief. But the audit raised angst and ire in my family. One sister was irked that the IRS would seek more money from us when there are so many people that get away with paying far less in taxes than they should. As for Bill and me, we were simply concerned about how much more they would require, and whether or not we would be put in prison for tax fraud, thereby requiring my brother to bake a cake with a file in it to bring to us in prison.

According to what I read in my prayer book, tax collectors were abhorred during the time of Jesus as much – if not more so – than now. Right up there with prostitutes and Samaritans. The reason was that tax collectors were independent contractors who paid the taxes for the people up front, and then collected the money from those same people afterwards. No rules. They could collect as much as they wanted, and in any manner they saw fit. So not only were they cheating their fellow Jews, but they were colluding with the Romans, the Jews’ sworn enemy.

So no one was a fan of Matthew. And yet, while passing through Capernaum, Jesus called him to “follow me.” According to Matthew’s own recount of the incident, his response was this: And he got up and followed him (Matthew, 9:9).

Though I had heard this story many times, reading it on Sunday morning resulted in me putting my prayer book on my lap and thinking about why Jesus seemed to want to particularly reach out to those folks not well regarded by the Jews. In his gospel, Matthew gives the reason, quoting Jesus: Those who are well do not need a physician, but the sick do….I did not come to call the righteous but sinners (Matthew, 9: 12-13).

What a relief that is, because if there is anything I do well, it’s sinning. Perhaps I can’t compete with Matthew-the-tax-collector, or the sinner who washed Jesus’ feet with her tears and wiped them with her hair. Still, I do my share of not being a good and faithful follower of Jesus. I don’t always forgive easily. I take the Lord’s name in vain. I frequently am not the most gracious of wives. My sins go on and on. Still, I know that God forgives me and invites me every day to be with him in heaven.

As an aside, prior to our big adventure in 2008, I had never heard of the Italian artist Michelangelo Meris da Caravaggio, who painted in the early 1600s. Caravaggio’s art was initially somewhat controversial at least in part because of his realistic portrayals and his use of dramatic lighting. We saw several of his paintings that hang in various churches throughout Rome, generally totally unprotected and hanging in the dark unless you have a coin to put into the slot which thereby turns on the lights. But my favorite was the painting called The Calling of St. Matthew. In it, you see Jesus and St. Peter who have entered the room in which Matthew sits at a table with other tax collectors. Jesus has just asked Matthew to follow him. In the painting, the man assumed to be Matthew is pointing to himself with a surprised look on his face, presumably saying something like, “Really? Me? Are you sure about this?”

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I can only presume that in real life, not only was Matthew surprised, but I suspect that all of his apostles were pretty shocked.

Jesus loves sinners as much as he loves everyone. Thank goodness.

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Saturday Smile: Delightful Dagny

dagny decorate cupcakesDagny turned 9 yesterday. Since her family has had a busy couple of days, she had kind of a quiet birthday and will celebrate at Heritage Square with a few of her friends today. But at 2 o’clock, Addie – who was visiting me – got a telephone call from Dagny.

“You and Nana are invited to attend my tea party at 3 o’clock,” she said in her delightfully loveable voice.

We accept, Addie told her.

When we arrived, she had set a little table and had prepared some goodies, including deviled eggs, cucumber sandwiches, tiny PB&J sandwiches, and a pretty fruit plate. So Dagny, her two sisters, her mom, and I enjoyed a lovely afternoon tea.

Later that evening, Papa and I joined the rest of the family at a dinner celebrating Dagny. She picked the menu, so of course we had steak and pork and potatoes. Her mother apparently told her she needed to pick a vegetable, and she chose cauliflower. Cupcakes for dessert, vanilla of course. A vehicle to hold a candle to honor my favorite 9-year-old.

Dagny and Grandma Lynne and many presents

Dagny and Grandma Lynne and many presents

Dagny makes me smile every time I see her.

 

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Dagny proudly showing off her ant farm, which PROMPTLY went outside.

 

Addie and Papa play catch in the street. No broken windows. Or bones.

Addie and Papa play catch in the street. No broken windows. Or bones.

 

 

Friday Book Whimsy: The Weight of Blood

imgresMysterious characters, a large helping of suspense, dark family secrets, and a gritty southern rural setting – all elements that will call out to me and set me to reading a book. Laura McHugh’s debut novel The Weight of Blood has all of those elements and more.

The fact that the book was set in a poor area of the Ozarks in rural Missouri immediately reminded me of Daniel Woodrell’s creepy novel-made-into-a-movie Winter’s Bone, a book I liked 100 percent because of the setting. The Weight of Blood had the same sort of sinister atmosphere.

Lucy Dane’s mother apparently walked into a cave and disappeared when Lucy was a baby. Her disappearance has haunted both Lucy and her father Carl for almost two decades. How could someone who people say so loved her daughter abandon her?

Many years later, Lucy’s friend Cheri, a teenager who most believe is developmentally disabled, is found murdered and dismembered. Reminded of her mother, Lucy undertakes her own investigation. The harder she works at finding the truth, the clearer it becomes that her own family has its own sinister secrets. Running into roadblock after roadblock from friends and family alike, it becomes clear that lots of people know more than they are saying, and there are things she may not want to learn. Only her friend Daniel will help her find out the truth.

McHugh’s writing is good, and kept me reading into the night. At first glance, her characters seem to be black hat/white hat, but as the novel progresses, some of the gray begins to display itself. These are characters you don’t easily forget, even after the book is finished. McHugh paints a clear picture about what it’s like to live in a small town where everyone knows everyone else and blood is thicker than water.

The ending held little surprise, but was satisfying. I would recommend this book for the setting and the memorable characters, but only if you are in the mood for somber reading.

Here is a link to the book.